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Stephen99 · 30/06/2008 22:29

evening all

top tips and experiences required here...just in the process of teaching our little boy (nearly 7) to ride his bike without his stabilisers.

i know there are arguments that he shouldn't have had them in the first place, but we got him and our little girl bikes together at the start of spring and its worked out really well...apart from one slight visit to a & e after dd crashed into a fence!

anyway, we've had 2 sessions without stabilisers for the wee man... and i reckon he's just about mastered the balancing part, so good for him. in fact really good for him because he's quite small and not the strongest little lad - and definitely not a sporty type - so i'm really pleased for him, and of course proud of him too.

in truth, i forced the stabiliser-ditching a bit because i'd seen younger kids riding without them, and while he agreed to it, he was a little bit lacking in confidence when we acually got out there to do it (in our local park).

a couple of times i insisted he got on with it when we could have easily given up, and after a few father-son contretemps, he's cracked it and is delighted with himself, and rightly so.

all we've got to do is master the getting going bit on his own, (i've been giving him a push to get him started) and the stopping without jumping off bit too!

anyway, any thoughts on this, anyone..? its a real right of passage type thing this, isn't it? a life skill to notch up...and a metaphor and a half for future things, i suppose.

my top tips?

ride on grass. he was much more confident even though its probably harder going pedallingwise.

set little targets..as soon as i said he needed ride a hundred metres (cumulatively) before we went home, he was eager to keep on keeping on when he was wobbly and had given up and jumped off before. he probably thought "i'll show you, dad!" to himself and this spurred him on. in the end tonight, he was keen to stay and do more even though it was tea time.

all rewarded of course with his pick of expensive cookies at the bakery...those buttery ones with smarties in sure do taste nice with a cup of tea....well he wasn't the only one working hard, was he?!

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PeaMcLean · 30/06/2008 22:32

You seem to have it all covered Just more practice now.

It is a fab thing though isn't it - teaching them to ride. I was so glad it was just me and DS that afternoon, really special moment when he rode off on his own.

lucykate · 30/06/2008 22:33

we need to get dd off her stabilisers, she's 6.5 and all her friends can ride, but she's so scared when it comes to riding her bike. even with stabilisers on, she wobbles around, her 3 year old brother just zooms past her!! thing is, she's really good on her scooter, so i reckon if she gave it a go, she'd take to it quickly as she knows all about balance, but she's just so afraid.

Stephen99 · 30/06/2008 22:49

oh, lk i know what you mean..our ds was close to tears today saying he was scared...but i tried to rationalise with him saying that he'd fallen off loads of times with his stabilisers on and never really got hurt...he sort of agreed, but on the very next go he got a handlebar in the goolies after doing quite well for 10 metres!

we had a ten minute calm down time out session then...that's when i devised my 100 metres then home time strategy.

aaaah, the poor little lad was a bit upset.....and of course i didn't want to be be too pushy, but was sure he could do it, otherwise i wouldn't have persisted.

give your dd a go...she might surprise you when it actually comes down to it!

and thanks for encouragement, pmac...can't go tomorrow, but will be out on wednesday...i took a video on the phone to show mum and sister, and looking back at it now, he does just seem disappear off into the distance all on his own. oh, no, what have i done!

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gillybean2 · 01/07/2008 11:15

Have you got space in the garden? If so leave the bike out there and let him practise getting started while noone is paying attention. He'll be shouting for you to come see soon s he's got it.

Gilly

Stephen99 · 01/07/2008 11:54

good thought, gb2...i'll leave it out there tonight. am at work, but he might have a go...then we're back to the park on wed. dd (4) now keen to take stabilisers off too...copycat!

just searched this (never used that function before), and there's loads on it in behaviour/development...should have read before starting!

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Triathlete · 02/07/2008 21:53

Best way to teach a kid to ride a bike is by taking the pedals off and letting them learn to balance by scooting forwards. Balancing is the harder skill. Once they've got that, pedalling is relatively easy to add on.

Doing it with stabilisers teaches the wrong skill first, and makes learning the important one much harder.

Stephen99 · 03/07/2008 10:47

by jove, he's got it!

3rd go out last night and undiluted glory for the boy!

except that he still falls over half the time when he's stopping, but we'll work on that...

actually, i had a good, serious father-son talk to him explaining that we'd probably gone about teaching/learning the wrong way in some respects...and that i should have done my research before we went out without stabilisers in the first place...i apologised for not doing my research properly, thus hopefully versing him well in the twin arts of preparation and humility.

don't think he took it in, but there you go, he's only 6!

daughter's keen on ditching her stabs now...she's 4.3, and i think i'll give her a go next week

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Triathlete · 07/07/2008 20:43

Well done! I expect to see him whizzing past me on a Sunday morning any day now.

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