Partner Travels away

[ThisWiseCrow]

hi
My partner travels away for work.
My 4 year old son finds this very difficult. He is becoming very volatile at pick up and drop off from school. The transisition from childcare is becoming very difficult.

Are there any other dads here who are in this situation?

Is your son her son?

Are the two things definately related? He's volatile BECAUSE she works away?

yes

does any one know if there is a good "dads net" out there?
I've been really disapointed and really looking for some help with my sons behavouir.

Expecting an achanlced of abuse for this question - if you are going to say something negative pls don't.

If any one does know a good site for dad that would be much aprreciate

Expecting an achanlced of abuse for this question - if you are going to say something negative pls don't.

Sorry what?? You haven't had any abuse, you've just had valid questions.

No one is giving you abuse. They’re just trying to find out information so they can’t appropriate advice.

You can post on hear it’s a parenting forum I’ve read lots of posts from men.
Perhaps marking the calendar and talking about how long the trip will be beforehand so he knows when she will be home. Plan something special to do in the evening like making pizzas or going for some sort of treat, Tell him before school what the plan is and ask what special treat activities he would like to do. Possibly write some down.
4 is really young and often kids of this age still struggle to put feelings into words. Talk about feelings and emotions and possibly give him some words for them ( disappointed, angry, sad). He’s probably upset and confused and needs reassurance and understanding for big feelings.
Also reception year is brutal on them they have such busy days it can get exhausting there’s so much to learn and so many social skills and rules to follow sometimes they need to decompress. Frustration often comes out in tantrums.