Ex dictating place

[Koolpop2]

i am recently separated and my children 7 and 5 live with their mum. We have been together mediation but that broke down because she said it wasn’t working. I am waiting for a meeting with my solicitor about a child arrangement order.
in the meantime she said I can see my children but it has to be at my mums house that is an hour away. I have been doing this for the past 6 months. I don’t feel like I get quality time there with them and I feel I should be able to take them to my house where they have their own room. I’m afraid if I break this demand that she will stop me seeing them. Can she tell me where I spend time with my children?
I also believe she has been bad mouthing me as some of the things the children have said do not seem age appropriate. She always says they have some breakdown or are anxious after I have seen them but they are happy and calm whilst with me.
how long does the court process take? I just want to be able to spend time with my children without having to be at my mums every other weekend.

What would her side of the story be, I wonder? Why is she saying you have to have them at your mum’s? What are her concerns?

What’s your living situation. Do you have your own place you can have them?

Have there been allegations of abuse or any drug/alcohol misuse?

Have social services or police been involved?

What are her reasons that you cannot take them to your own house please?

From what you’ve said then no, it’s no unreasonable to have the children at your house where they have their own rooms.

what information would SHE say you have omitted?

Are you the new girlfriend because "she" has posted this elsewhere on Mumsnet from "her" perspective.

… and neither of you (assuming you are two different posters ) are coming back to answer questions/reply to other posters.