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Baby Carriers / Slings

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Flashman · 29/05/2008 20:21

Hi - Just wondering where other chaps stand on the issue of the babycarriers (slings and things like that) We are due our first in 55 days (not that I am counting!!), and I was chatting to some mates on the subject of slings and carriers and the general view is that men that do wear them look "Pussy whipped" is how it was explained. For my sins I tend to see that point of view more so than any others. I mentioned it today at work and most of the females tend to think grow up - but the men tended to agree, but none of them have children either.

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PhDlifeNeedsaNewLife · 29/05/2008 21:02

yes, my dh just wandered past so I asked him - he said wearing ds all he felt was pride, "look what I've got!"

hope you feel the love too, flashman, when you meet your lo.

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Flashman · 29/05/2008 21:02

hmmm huge travel system, check!!

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PhDlifeNeedsaNewLife · 29/05/2008 21:03

lol Pinky - my dh does the strut whenever ds goes to sleep on him.

cmotdibbler · 29/05/2008 21:04

Check out the babyhawk website - you can design your own sling, and they ship in about 2 weeks. I'll admit that there are a lot of slings out there that are (to me) minging, and I'd never be seen dead in anything pink. Even my Emo nephews think that my sling is good looking.

Amongst blokes who don't have kids, theres a lot of bravado about stuff. Once you have one, you soon get over that if you want to retain your testicles...

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Flashman · 29/05/2008 21:05

oh I imagine that it will be feel the love time - its just things to think about while waiting - now july seems so far away. To be fair these are lads I have known since high school - so a chance to take the piss is not given up lightly!

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PInkyminkyohnooo · 29/05/2008 21:16

'The Strut'- perfect description![grin}

Ours is a Didymos and it's a very neutral colour, BTW.

beansprout · 29/05/2008 21:21

Dh's view is that the blokes mentioned in the original post are probably the sort who think it is beneath them to change nappies too. Nuff said.

LittleMyDancing · 29/05/2008 21:32

Well DP, when asked if he felt stupid slinging, said 'No - anyone who does should grow a pair'.

nuff said.

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Flashman · 29/05/2008 21:39

bean - got nothing to go with changing nappies just slings. At no point nappies were mentioned. And to be honest I was looking for any males on here and their honest views - not a view when they are asked by their partner what they think. At present to my better half it is a wonderful idea - and I imaginethat i will fold to the suggestion because it is what she thinks is a good idea - and it is not worth fighting about - but whenever I wear it I am confident that I will feel a self confident twat. Or perhaps once we have it - everything will be peachy?

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Flashman · 29/05/2008 21:41

little - and if my wife or dp whatever not sure what all these are - walked in now I would agree how wonderful a sling could be and would agree that this flashman was an idiot!

nuff said indeed

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beansprout · 29/05/2008 21:44

Please accept my apologies for posting something that didn't support your OP.

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Flashman · 29/05/2008 21:49

well who said anything about nappies - were were projecting a theory too!

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beansprout · 29/05/2008 21:53

Am not sure why you started this thread if you don't want povs from other men?!

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Flashman · 29/05/2008 21:55

I am sure that when I looked at your profile it stated that you are female???

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PhDlifeNeedsaNewLife · 29/05/2008 21:58

Flashman, it may help to check the acronym list above.

bean is female, but she gave you her dh's view - that is "dear/darling husband" (the dear/darling bit can be more or less sarcastic)

so your wife is dw, your partner is dp, your kids are dc's, etc.

hth. (hope that helps)

Pan · 29/05/2008 21:59

I refuse to read the rest of this thread.

You're mates are sooo right. Pussywhipped. Fits in with the socks n' sandals brigade, who also weave their own organic yoghurt. That sort. Need a kick in the goolies.

etc.

that sort of thing.

CoolYourJets · 29/05/2008 21:59

Flashman - interesting choice of moniker for a soon to be dad.

FWIW - my DH went out and bought one and loved going about in it as Dad in charge. I was breastfeeding and lugging the baby around when we/he was out made him feel more involved, it was also a great way to get the baby to nod off.

Women melt at the sight of dads looking all nurturing - your own wife will be one of these.....

Personally I think Dads look way cooler with a baby in a sling than pushing a buggy. Just sling a a rucksack on with the babykit or even a spare nappy and some wipes stuffed in a pocket.

Oh and you probably won't care. You will be lucky if you don't have milk vomit on your shoulder and being able to see out of your sleep deprived eyes will hide many style faux pas from you.

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Flashman · 29/05/2008 22:10

Oh the flashman is very apt - thinking of flashman from the flashman papers - coward - running away ect!!!

oh and I did notice that it was a comment from her DP and I thought that was partner - but I know that when a female asks you something like that the answer to give. I was really hoping that there might be some guys on here who were in a similar situation - but, and this is meant with no offence, all replies have been from women. I generally know what the female view is. Basically stop being a twat grow up and women will think that it is great a bloke is getting involved!

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Flashman · 29/05/2008 22:16

oh and how rude of me - PhDlifeNeedsaNewLife thank you very much for your help -

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CoolYourJets · 29/05/2008 22:20

I presumed that was why tbh .

We are not hugely mobbed with guys on this site. You might have better luck asking a dad one to one rather than in a pack.

It is hugely scarey (imo) becoming a parent it changes who you are quite fundamentally. The good bit is most people don't care that much once the baby is here.

I speak as someone who chose my pram (secretly) on the basis that the fabric would look best with my work suits for nursery drop offs etc.

4 yrs as a sahm and counting...

Pan · 29/05/2008 22:22

no Flashman - Pan is SUCH a bloke. Just don't do it. This is where it all begins. Soon she'll be insisting that you sit down to pee. Unless she does that already. Stand up NOW, in every sense. Before it's too late.

Ignore this nest of vipers. they are part of the emasculation conspiracy. Believe me.

PhDlifeNeedsaNewLife · 29/05/2008 22:23

well, we're telling you what our dh's do - which should give you an idea of what they think, even if you don't trust what they have said to us.

and fwiw, I think if you're going around giving the answers you think people want to hear, based on their genders, then yep, time to grow up. Sorry, but that's grade-school, not the stuff of honest, adult relationships.

CoolYourJets · 29/05/2008 22:25

See how few blokes we have on here Pan will stalk you purely due to your y chromosone.

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Flashman · 29/05/2008 22:28

See that is the problem - just about all my friends don't have kids and when it was mentioned most of them take the view that it looks stupid to have slings ect, and the only one that did have a kid said in private that he feels "like a fucking earth mum!" I am ashamed to admit it at the moment I agree, oh I know I am 32 I should not let it bother me but here we are!! I have had one good thought - at least when I am standing around in shops I will have somewhere to rest a book!!

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solo · 29/05/2008 22:30

Flashman, my Dp is the most macho man I know and he loved wearing our Dd in a sling and yes! definitely a pussy magnet! lol!!! he also wears her sun hats and mickey mouse sun glasses...perhaps it's more to do with confidence than what other 'men' think?