Grandparents helping with split care of separated parents?

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First time posting here but wondering if anyone could give some advice.

I currently split 3/7 days for my 2 girls with my ex partner. I’ve asked to do 50/50 but unfortunately she won’t agree to this.

im working shifts in my full time job so on small occasions I need help with school drop off or pick up when I can’t make it so I ask my parents who have been involved in the kids lives since birth.

my ex partner seems to have an issue with this and proceeds to say that I shouldn’t have the girls when I can’t commit to drop off pick up and wants to take days off me.

just wondering if anyone has had a similar issue as I don’t see an issue with my grandparents helping with drop off/pick up on the occasions I can’t. My ex partner seems to call/txt every morning I’ve had them the night prior to check that I’m with them and it’s quite frustrating.

many thanks!

Perfectly reasonable in my opinion.

A family friend has gc. Her son and ex-DIL share 50:50. Our friend does many school pick ups and drop offs, holiday care etc so that her son can keep his job.

It has been quite the burden on her for a number of years now but she has become the glue that keeps everything together for those dc.

Appreciate the reply,

to be honest I just thought it was the right thing to do as we both work full time and have always shared costs of nursery/school but it is a financial strain on me now on top of child maintenance and a lot of travel to/from pick ups.

maybe I’ve been too naive to try and keep an amicable relationship but it just seems like she just wants to make impossible for me to keep up the 3 night commitment all on her terms

Well she isn't being fair or reasonable or amicable.

Perhaps you can no longer afford private school? This needs to be broached sooner rather than later.