Child contact

[Opsiedaisy4]

I'm a Dad looking for female perspective.
I've spent 11 years trying to get contact with my 3 daughters and maintain contact once I had a court order. I've had to spend an absolute fortune on solicitors and courts just to spend the bear minimum of time with them. I've had all sorts of nasty lies and rumours spread about me by their Mum I've been reported to the police and social services for totally fictitious reasons.
Why does it need to be this hard

Not sure what you'd like? Did you just want to rant or some advice?

@carrotcard I am firstly venting and secondly trying to understand why women feel the need to stop fathers from seeing their children and thirdly why is that they can use the legal system so easily to cause greif

sorry to hear that m8 ..all i can say is im going through court at moment and she has spread all sorts of lies/falsehoods about me without any foundation ....it seems to be that some women will do and say anything just to cut the father out of the childs life ...try and ignore them and fight like hell through the courts

Haven't been in that situation, but I imagine some women feel hurt and want to punish you. They don't see it from the child's best interest.
And sometimes quite rightly so if the person has been abusive etc in the past.

May be worth adding that she was the abuser was arrested for assault. I left for my own safety. The courts though because she was never prosecuted don't take it seriously and are willing to hear everything she has to say. I spent over £25000 on solicitors and courts but had to walk away when the money ran out

I feel your pain.

My suggestion would be to persevere - your children will understand you took the right steps in the future.

I’m a barrister specialising in family law.

I offer advice and representation for a fair price across the south coast.

https://www.child-contact.com