Dad to be issues

[ruralboy]

Hi everyone,

This is my first post, so really hoping for some helpful responses here…

I'm having a child with my ex, she's said that I will be part of the babies life, which is great. I've been checking up on her daily because she's having major problems with morning sickness. She's kind of texted me today saying that if there any issues she would tell me. Should I still be checking up on daily?

Thanks.

Congrats!

Daily is probably abit much, esp if she's poorly with sickness.

Whilst you checking in on her is lovely I remember my MIL texting me daily and it got right on my tits 😂

Does weekly sound ok?

To me it sounds like she doesn't want any contact and she'll contact you.

Fgs what are you doing, setting reminders? Just tell her if she needs anything at all, ask, and leave her alone.

Is this a recent break up? Who instigated it?

She broke up with me. I want to make sure she's knows that I want to be part of this journey and that she can't say that I wasn't there but I was.

Honestly, communication is key. Ask her if weekly will be ok. I hope it works out for you 😀

I think weekly is fine.

Just check in.

I can't imagine not having one conversation with someone I was having a baby with a week.

I think ask her how much communication she’d like. You sound thoughtful which is very nice.

Daily is too much, once a week or every two weeks.

Just make sure you can make it to as many routine check ups as possible antenatal appointments and scans im sure she would let you know if something was up but if you really want to check in message every other day

Maybe try asking her if you could just check in weekly. Could she possibly be getting pissed off because she thinks you're trying to win her back? Just keep all communication baby related, because pregnancy with awful sickness is only going to feel worse if you feel stressed, which it sounds like your calls are making her feel. Sorry, I'm not being mean, just a possible take on the situation

You don't need to keep checking in until baby is born. Don't worry what she can and can't say, as she'll say what she likes. Just ensure communication is open from your end.

Do you know if she plans to put you on the birth certificate?