harrassment

[andym299]

hi all ..
me and my ex split in december and since then she has refused any photos/contact. she has reported me to the police for harrassment because during a exchange of watsapps (i sent 40 she sent 38) which in my opinion is a conversation ......
any help please

Is the conversation aggressive or threatening?
No legal arrangement in place?
Is anyone able to be a go-between while it is volatile between you with your family or your ex partners?

no in my opinion its only factfindingabout my daughter.
currently going through court to try and get to see my little girl (19 months).
sbe being a total bitch.
i have raised a case of common assault with the police against her.
courts have ordered sect 7 and back to court in 18 weeks

Well 38/40 messages on its own doesn’t make harassment. It depends entirely on the content of the messages doesn’t it.

If the tone and content of the messages are fine then she could be doing you a favour reporting the conversation as it showed her mental state or behaviour

it will also depend on your previous behaviour. If you’ve been an abusive arsehole previously it would be appropriate for her to accept zero shit off you this time.

If you’ve been appropriate and reasonable enough throughout you don’t have anything to worry about.

id recommend getting in touch with families need fathers or an alternative fathers group for advice and support

Things are obviously really heated between you and your ex so perhaps you need to back off. Have you had any support or advice?

I would stop contacting your ex unless it's necessary ie regarding the court case. I'd also stop calling her names.

Keep your eye on the prize which is seeing your child. Do whatever it takes to achieve that.

Do please look up “Families Need Fathers”. You will be able to access invaluable advice and support here.

It’s one thing not contacting your ex, but it’s another thing if they’re currently your child’s carer.

i know if i was in this situation and my content were living separate and i didn’t have enough contact with them i would want to know what’s going on.

It’s all well and good saying don’t contact her but how would any of the mums with young kids on here feel about that if it were them?

My point is your ex has reported you for harassment and you don't want the situation to escalate. If you believe you can communicate with your ex about your child calmly and politely, then obviously go ahead