Guys - I have lots of lovely single female friends - where are they going wrong?

[VoluptuaGoodshag]

What do you look for in a female and what makes you run in the opposite direction?

how about online dating? its working wonders for 3 of my single friends, not so single anymore.

Daddster - unfortunately as a SP of a 3yr old, it's a bit difficult getting a baby sitter every week. My childless friends are mostly shift workers and my family all have their own commitments so no can do.

I was a ballet dancer until about 5 yrs ago and would love to get back into that, but not so many men there!!!!

I also sing, but usually end up surrounded by drunk idiots at pub karaoke nights!! (I tend to attract total weirdos!)

I am very fit as I walk everywhere with my daughter (don't have a car).

Money is of no importance to me, I am not needy and clingy, or jealous and possessive, I love nothing more than intelligent conversation and a damned good laugh, I am merely a loving, honest woman who wants to find a man to love and care for....If I go to the pub with friends (who are all in relationships/married) I have no problem attracting male attention, but they all seem to be binge drinking hooligans or the stalker type!!!) Where am I going wrong???

How about being set-up by family, friends or colleagues? Or attending weddings etc?

Trouble is - what suits some doesn't others.

There is such a variety of things that are regarded as being attractive that we can only give our own thoughts which probably will not ring true to others.

For example - my DW didn't have an issue with me earning less than her and neither did i. Money wasn't an issue for us, but i know a lot of women sub-conciously look for someone who is loaded for the security and lifestyle/image of it.

I personally like a strong-willed and confident woman and couldn't stand these neurotic princesses i kept meeting. But i know that some men like their woman to be at home behaving themselves and not answering back and all that shite.

The rason we got together in the first place was because i was so different to her first husband who wanted to control her every move and have her being subservient to him. I had my own life and didn't have any of these stupid issues he had - i guess it works that way round as well whereby women will want to look for a man who doesn't have control or insecurity issues.

Personality types count for a lot when you are looking for a life partner. Something that fits together like a glove to yours.

I think the thing is (when looking for a partner) is to just get out there as much as possible.

You never know where you may bump into someone.

It could happen anywhere - but you never know if you don't experience as many different situations as possible.

No point going somewhere that isn't you though...........

Agree EricL about the numbers game. Even if you don't meet someone right away, in the meantime, you will constantly be forced to hone your requirements on what is essential (good character) and what is optional (wealth?). So that when you do meet Mr Right, you will have been stripped of needless prejudices.