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Jase896 · 19/01/2024 21:41

So me and my partner where together for over 5 years and have a 3 year old daughter together. When she was born my partner got her registered without me being present meaning I am not registered as the father. When she was about a month old, my Ex partner had a falling out with my mother and basically asked me to choose between her and our daughter or my family, she made me cut all ties with my family for nearly 3 years and on numerous occasions would check my phone, my emails, my bank, constantly ask me where I was. I lost all my friends and felt completely alone apart from having my partner and daughter I had noone. I recently made contact with my family and my partner found out and on new years day this year she left me and within 2 days she has moved our daughters nursery and hasn't told me where the nursery is but is expecting me to pay for it, she has set up CMS, emptied the joint account and closed the account, kicked me out the house and changed all the utilities, she has on 3 occasions told me that she will get back with me if I never speak to my family again and change all my contact details and when I told her I wanted to be with her and still have contact with my family, she flipped and told me I will never see my child again and when i have been round to see my daughter, her and her mum have sat there and shouted at me in front of our daughter and told me not to contact them as to when I can see my daughter they will tell me when I can see her and if I contact them the police will be called. in the 19 days so far this year I have had 5 hours of contact with my child, no phone calls, no pictures, no video calls and been completely cut off from any form of contact and its absolutely killing me. any advice? To me this doesn't seem like the actions of someone who is devastated from a break up but of someone who has planned this. Please can someone help me understand my feelings of emptiness and lack of sense of being anymore. Thank you

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Jase896 · 21/01/2024 14:41

SgtJuneAckland · 21/01/2024 14:28

You're not really answering the questions clearly, what was the falling out she had with your family?
Also I still don't understand how you've not managed to get yourself on the birth certificate in 3 years, that's something you could've done without her. Also why did she think you'd leave the country with your child? That seems a huge leap

The falling out was based on the fact that I wasn't put on the birth certificate! my parents asked my ex partner why I wasn't but on it and a massive argument happened and my ex partner told me they never wanted anything to do with them again.
And I can not be put on the birth certificate without a court order or the mothers permission!
She was paranoid that I didnt want to be with her and that I was only with her for our daughter, which is a complete lie and not true at all. And I have family that live in South Africa so she thought i'd run off and live there!

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OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 21/01/2024 14:53

So what % do you actually think that the child may not be yours ?

Are you only going to pay CMS when it is proved that it is your child 100%

Reugny · 21/01/2024 15:08

And I can not be put on the birth certificate without a court order or the mothers permission!

Then why didn't you tell your child's mother you where going to get a Court Order unless she agreed and started taking the steps to?

Not to go into too much detail my DP has met many men like you who just can't be bothered and complain continuously about it to anyone who will put up with them, there as the fathers we know have actually bothered to get their name on their child's birth certificate.

Oh and your ex can get a prohibition steps if she thought you were serious about taking your child abroad to SA.

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