I posted this in relationships this morning, was aalso advised to post here. I would love some help on this asaap please.
Hi,
I have been with my dp 9yrs.
i must say sex has only ever been great a handful of times. with previous partner (who was a bullying asshole i may add) sex was fab.
due to one thing and antoher (i was ill for 18mths) then we had kids, this 'problem' has never really been sorted.
i have tried subtle - joy of sex book to read, i have tried adventurous, sex toys etc, now i think we need to talk about it.
i approacged my dp last night, and talked about why it was always over so quick (poss prem ejac), and he said he didnt realise it was that bg of a prob and perhaps he had been ignoring it and sex was something he never wanted to talk about it.
his upbringing was pretty repressed sexually (you cant mentioin sex in house etc) and he never went through the normal teenage yrs of experimenting, girly mags, talking with mates etec. so his confidence is pretty low.
i want to know what we can do from here. i am 30 and cant face the next 40yrs together of sex being like this.
thanks in advance xxxx