Is it time for custody

[Rapido1]

Hi All

I have been seperated for a year after a 8 year marriage. We had two kids who are now 12 and 10. My ex dumped me in one night and went off with her beau whose 10 years older than me

I have the children and have the house even though the ex wants her share. Not gonna happen but hey. My question is Yesterday my ex called her kids arseholes and embarrassing. This is the latest in a long line of issues over the last year

Is it now time to get full custody of my kids?

Kind regards

[WhamBamThankU]

There's no such thing as full custody anymore. You can request a lives with order, but I very much doubt they would order your kids to never see their mum.

[SleepingStandingUp]

Are you the parent with primary residence and recieving child benefit etc? Are you seeking to cut their mother from their life entirely? What do you kids want? How often does she see them?

[Sprogonthetyne]

You already have residency, but you could get that formalised with child arrangment order. At 10 & 12, visitation should be directed by what the children want, and if you or your ex took it to court, their views would be taken into account, especially the 12yo. Unless the children refuse to go, then you are unlikely to be able to stop her seeing them.

Assets will need to be split, not nessercerily 50/50, it's based on need, so as you have the DC, you might get more (40/60 or 30/70 maybe). She will however, most likely get something. Especially if she has regular contacts, as she will also be housing/ providing for the kids during her time.

You are only likely to keep the house if there are savings/pension she can take as her share. If most of the money is in equity then she may be able to force a sale, if this would allow you both to use your share as deposit for cheaper housing. As residential parent you will be entitled to child maintenance.

[beachdays27]

Is now the time to prevent your children from having a relationship with their mother? Probably not.

[Sux2buthen]

@beachdays27

Is now the time to prevent your children from having a relationship with their mother? Probably not.

Well that depends on how abusive she is, there's not enough information