Struggling to bond with my 4 month old

[brownbear86]

Not sure if this is a common thing...
Our first born is 4 months old and I'm struggling to develop any real bond with him which is getting me down. I work from home so I get to take him for a buggy walk every morning, I do baths 50/50 and all morning bottle feeds.

But often when I see him he pretty much looks through me/turns away, won't let me settle him to bed, and screams when I try to bath him- perfectly fine as soon as mum comes in the room tho.

Beginning to get a bit discouraged by it all and withdrawing from interactions. Any tips or advice anyone can offer? Is this normal, does it eventually change? Not what I had imagined for first few months of fatherhood.

Cheers

It’s normal for a baby as they just want their primary carer but it gets better. Things which may help are using a sling instead of a buggy, skin to skin and try to do more interaction in the morning when he is less tired. Just keep preserving. Little and often. It will improve.

The above is all good advice.

The other thing is don’t let him push you into leaving everything to his mum because then he will get more used to her and less used to you.

As the PP says figure out when he’s least tired / most receptive to you and do most with him then, but do consistently do it.

And do chat to your partner about it, she’ll notice things he is starting to like that you could try with him. They get bigger quickly and he’ll be able to do much more as the months pass.