I am a married dad of nearly 20 years and we have 2 wonderful daughters, aged 13 and 16. We all have a great relationship, but sometimes the girls do forget respect for me and I often tell them.
The young one has a habit of ‘messing around’ sticking her middle finger up at me, and I have often said this is inappropriate.
I work from home, run my own business, and have those pressures also. I work constantly and have literally no time to myself. It has been quite a stressful few months, starting with our eldest doing her important high school exams whilst we were keeping the 13yr old away from her whilst she is studying. On top of this, our 13yr old needed a lot of persuading to revise for her own exams, which was rather challenging in itself. Along side this, the 13yr old has a lot of social anxiety. Although she has a large group of ‘girl’ friends, they can be very overpowering, mean and generally just acting like bitchy girls which she takes to heart and gets very upset. She is afraid to stand up to them and it’s not the right time for her to walk away from them just yet. Most days are great with her friends, but the ones that are not, she is crying and we deal with her sympathetically. At her age, we can’t get involved and speak to parents or school as this will make things worse for her.
We often have arguments as all families do, with giving her advice on how to handle the situations but she is very very stubborn and won’t listen. Last weekend, it call came to a head, and I royally kicked off. We were advising her to handle a situation in a certain way, there were raised voices and she told me F* Off. That was it, I totally lost my rag, slapped her leg, threw her phone and I have never shouted like that before. I was in a total rage. I was so angry, I ripped my shirt and jumper off my back and punched the dining chair in another room. I was mortified by my actions. I was angry and could not calm down. I went for some fresh air and a long walk. Eventually I came home and calmed down. We hugged and apologised and everything was ok in the end.
When the topic of friends comes up, I feel very anxious and panic inside.
So, the point of this is, I still feel absolutely terrible at how I acted. I don't whether I have blown a fuse in my head due to the shouting and ranting. I am worried I have cause myself some damage inside, l She says she totally fine and is acting her usual self. I do have slight headaches that come and go but I think the is tension.
Thoughts, help, advice?
Thanks for listening.
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DDD99 · 18/07/2023 19:18
DDD99 · 18/07/2023 19:32
Thanks for the help there. Good job.
Hateitissues · 18/07/2023 19:25
I don't whether I have blown a fuse in my head due to the shouting and ranting.
and to top it off, you sound utterly thick. Oh and a drama llama
i call BS
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