I’ve been seperated from kids mother just over 6 years now and admittedly I probably went in to a new relationship rather quickly (about 6months after separation) and again admittedly I probably rushed into introducing new partner to kids and went about it the wrong way. I introduced new partner and children probably around 8-9 of being together, and then due to certain circumstances of new partner being kicked out of her flat she moved in about 6 months later. When introducing I didn’t say anything to the kids mother. Multiple reasons around why it all happened that way but the kids mother has always been very spiteful since separation and I quote ‘I will ruin every relationship you have and your life’ so I didn’t want to let her know about introducing, looking back, regardless of her behaviour I know I was wrong to go about it that way.
that relationship ended about 18months later and I admit my mistakes about going about it the wrong way and probably too quickly. But the new partner had a load of ‘promises’ which then turned out to a load of crap and all the red flags started after she moved in.
Now I’m in a new relationship (6months now) and we’ve already had the conversation about the introducing but are both happy with how it’s going and no plans anytime soon to introduce, both are happy with the pace it’s going.
But when it comes to that day I don’t want to go about it the wrong way. Should I let the kids mother know I’m in a relationship and how long it’s been but also let her know there’s no plans to introduce children yet? Or should I not say anything and when it comes to that day then let her know?
i want to go about the right way, I want to go over to see her and talk to her and let her know, I know how she’ll react but I personally want to go about it the right way. Letting her know I’m in a relationship and when it comes to it letting her know I plan to introduce.
Any tips on how I should go about it? Let her know now I’m in a relationship or not? Let her know when it comes to introducing or not?
Any people been in the same situation?
thanks