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Daughter bath time

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3rdtimedad · 05/07/2022 12:30

Hello, I am a father of 3. Our most recent arrival was in March this year. She is currently on home oxygen so already a few struggles, but hopefully that will only last a few months till she doesn't need it anymore.

My main struggle is, my 1st son with wife (eldest is step son) I wanted to be involved in everything, bath time, bed time, feeding, playing etc and we now have a very strong relationship.

I want to do all this with my daughter, however the thing I cannot do is bath / wash time. I feel so awkward but my wife doesn't seem to understand, and quite frankly neither do I. I find myself doing all the leg work, fetching and filling the bath, fetching clean clothes, putting dirty nappy in the bin, tidying bath away etc just in order to avoid having to do it.

I don't understand that I am quite happy to change her nappy etc but I can't seem to get over this bath / wash time and it's driving me mad.

I know it's early days but I am worried that the time is ticking already and that this will effect our bond / relationship as she grows.

Anyone else experienced this and how to get over it?


OP posts:

ApolloandDaphne · 05/07/2022 12:32

What is it about bath time that worries you?


Definitelymabel · 05/07/2022 12:42

What’s the issue? Are you worried about washing her privates? Better get used to it. If she’s anything like my daughter you’ve got at least 10 years of naked girl butt to deal with 😂


3rdtimedad · 05/07/2022 12:43

She was 10 weeks early so still very small compared to me, I am so worried that I am going to hurt her.

Then, secondly, although she is my daughter I can't get over that bath / wash time feels like a privacy thing. I know it sounds stupid and at her age she wouldn't tell the difference if our dog was giving her bath lol, but I just can't seem to get over it.

OP posts:

3rdtimedad · 05/07/2022 12:46

I know, and that's the most annoying thing 🤦‍♂️ that I know things are not going to change for a long time 🤷🏼‍♂️

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pbdr · 05/07/2022 12:48

The only way to get over this is to push through until you get used to it. You are her dad so this is part of your job, and she doesn't need privacy when it comes to you for a long time yet.
Obviously his you feel isn't your fault or something you can just switch off, but it's almost certainly something you can get over if you just make the effort to get used to doing it.


Uxori0us · 21/10/2022 07:19

Mate you need to get over this, I have four daughters. Yes your daughter has different body parts, and she is very small. In a year or so she will have bones of steel, be crashing into things and falling out of bed and getting up and running away.

you will also bath her, wipe her bottom, change nappies, dress her for school, brush her hair ect ect ect. Because that’s what she need,

step up young man, it’s just a vagina, don’t make it a taboo subject honesty is key.

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