Hello, I have a son almost 8yo . Because he never wanted to stay with his mother I have him 9 out of 14 nights that is week 1-5nights ,week 2-4nights. Summer holiday and all school breaks he stays with me 6 nights out of 7 ,with her 1 ,or nothing depending on how long is the break. Short breaks like jubilee, all 11 days with me . Summer holiday,she takes him 1 night ( Monday only)
When he was born she claimed CB and all of it. It stayed that way until now. My question is if I can claim CB based on time I take care of him. We never been to court so no court orders. School has both addresses, but I don’t know who is main one. They call me for permission for all sorts of things like to put my sons picture on newsletters etc and other stuff. GP is registered at her address as it’s same one since his birth. He is not registered at any dentist yet .She doesn’t pay me child support, not that I want it but for people who might ask on here, I’m not even sure if person who receives child benefit would even be required to pay . I would like to hear from people who actually had experience with this thing or know for sure . The last thing I want to do is to make a claim and be rejected only because she took him to gp last year for five minutes and I haven’t. By the way this arrangement that we have is in place since two years now.
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Rich1981 · 29/06/2022 22:44
Rich1981 · 30/06/2022 00:21
@Chickmad well he stays with me 9 out of 14 nights. Because he was unhappy with 50/50 two years ago so we changed it to what it is now. But GP address stays hers as it’s from many years ago,and I didn’t need to go and change it. By the way I don’t even know if I can walk in and just change it without her consent. The last thing I want is to be put on hold by surgery,and then get no consent feeling humiliated.
Rich1981 · 29/06/2022 22:44
Hello, I have a son almost 8yo . Because he never wanted to stay with his mother I have him 9 out of 14 nights that is week 1-5nights ,week 2-4nights. Summer holiday and all school breaks he stays with me 6 nights out of 7 ,with her 1 ,or nothing depending on how long is the break. Short breaks like jubilee, all 11 days with me . Summer holiday,she takes him 1 night ( Monday only)
When he was born she claimed CB and all of it. It stayed that way until now. My question is if I can claim CB based on time I take care of him. We never been to court so no court orders. School has both addresses, but I don’t know who is main one. They call me for permission for all sorts of things like to put my sons picture on newsletters etc and other stuff. GP is registered at her address as it’s same one since his birth. He is not registered at any dentist yet .She doesn’t pay me child support, not that I want it but for people who might ask on here, I’m not even sure if person who receives child benefit would even be required to pay . I would like to hear from people who actually had experience with this thing or know for sure . The last thing I want to do is to make a claim and be rejected only because she took him to gp last year for five minutes and I haven’t. By the way this arrangement that we have is in place since two years now.
Rich1981 · 29/06/2022 23:06
I called once HMRC but as usual they don’t know anything apart from telling u to send the form.
Fabulousfanny69 · 30/06/2022 00:42
Child benefit goes to the parent that decides the child's schooling - so I'd think that was you xx
Rich1981 · 30/06/2022 00:21
@Chickmad well he stays with me 9 out of 14 nights. Because he was unhappy with 50/50 two years ago so we changed it to what it is now. But GP address stays hers as it’s from many years ago,and I didn’t need to go and change it. By the way I don’t even know if I can walk in and just change it without her consent. The last thing I want is to be put on hold by surgery,and then get no consent feeling humiliated.
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Rich1981 · 30/06/2022 02:26
@Gingerkittykat It’s just seems like too much all this. Everything geared against a man . Situation should be simple. Am a parent, not someone who is trying to adopt strange child. My child stays with me 70% of the time, of course I pay more towards him , of course he lives with me ( doesn’t sleep outside my door) The problem is that noone knows anything. Even HMRC people get paralysed when asked questions. If they told me I would know what to prepare or give up the idea all together. Somehow it’s some kind of mystery as if am applying for adoption for gods sake!
Rich1981 · 30/06/2022 02:26
@Gingerkittykat It’s just seems like too much all this. Everything geared against a man . Situation should be simple. Am a parent, not someone who is trying to adopt strange child. My child stays with me 70% of the time, of course I pay more towards him , of course he lives with me ( doesn’t sleep outside my door) The problem is that noone knows anything. Even HMRC people get paralysed when asked questions. If they told me I would know what to prepare or give up the idea all together. Somehow it’s some kind of mystery as if am applying for adoption for gods sake!
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