mortified and embarrassed but need your honest views please about a nork question please

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deep breath have changed my name for this. Sorry if tmi but I want some straight answers from blokes please.

I had a baby a couple of years ago. My frame is thin but my norks are huge. Basically they stretched and stretched and then fell to my knees. They are out of all proportion to my frame and are not remotely attractive anymore.

OK the issue is: I now feel embarrassed having sex with dh without wearing a bra. Dh reassures me it's OK but I'm not convinced.

What I want to know is:

1. do you blokes find drooping boobs a real turn-off? 2. if you do, do you lie about it?

I can take a few jokes about spaniel ears but would really like some honest answers too. I'm not a troll.

Just wanted to say that you are not alone. Mine have headed south after 3 kids and losing 2 and a half stone this year. I am trying to come to terms with them, but it's hard. DH doesn't seem to mind, but if I had a spare few thousand I would definately get them lifted. sigh

FWIW worth big norks are very attractive in my view and you have nothing to worry about. Saggyness makes no difference as it is nice to get hold of something.
Your hubby is a lucky fella!

yes, norks are lovely and...not sure what else to say without sounding like the Tom Conti character in the film about the Scouse woman liberating herslf on the Greek island..when he went on about "boat is boat, fuck is fuck" and "I admire your stretch marks - they are a sign of your character and womanliness..."...but norks ARE norks and when on a loved one all the more wonderful no matter what shape or size....

Pan is right.

OK, to be completely honest. Occasionally you might look at a longterm partner as you get older and think something slightly negative. But you know that at the same time she might well be thinking, 'God his paunch is bigger', or 'Did his ears used to be that hairy?'

If you've got confidence that you've picked a good man he'll know that himself, and know that he's probably not God's Gift anymore. Only an idiot that would throw a good relationship away for a 'younger model'. Everybody ages. I look at my DW and see the same girl as 13 years ago. She must have changed but it's gradual and she looks great to me.

The most important thing is that you carry yourself with confidence. That's immensely attractive. Sure, get good new underpinning but make sure you give him a treat and strategically unleash 'em now and then!

Dp says he thinks you might be missing the point somewhat since if he is your husband then he will love you for more than your norkage and it doesn't really matter.

However, on a sagging norkage alone level, it doesn't bother him.

I think it is a healthy feeling to want to look as good as you can for your partner and worry slightly about your changing appearance - at least it shows you care and still find the physical part of your relationship plays a role.

I have found myself visiting the gym less recently cos of work committments and an illness and i can see my waist expanding already.

I can't wait to get back into it after Xmas - not just because i want to be fit for myself, but also because i know my DW loves it too.

I think it is healthy to have this desire to want to look your best for your partner.

None of us want it to become an obsession though or a serious worry. Like DaDa says - confidence in your ability to wow your partner is very sexy and none of us men want a wife who hides away or doesn't wear or do things because of worries over their shape.

Sorry again! I've been travelling and only just re-visited this thread again and wanted to say thanks for the reassuring and honest and wise replies everyone and for taking the trouble to post.

I'm lucky to have a fantastic dh and so "love me, love my norkage" is a good phrase to keep in my head Like Eric, I'm hoping to get fitter and in better shape generally for 2008 so here's to positive thinking and a better body image one and all! Happy Christmas!