Anxious Wait For Reassurance

[MattyJ94]

Hi all,

I recently found out my partner and I are expecting our first baby due January 2022.
We found out extremely early, at 5 weeks. To say I am excited would be an absolute understatement. I'm doing all the reading and learning possible, to make sure by the time baby comes i am as prepared as i can possibly be.

By nature, I am a very anxious person. I always assume the worst, and think "This amazing thing can't possibly be happening to me!"

I was so nervous for the first scan hoping everything would be fine- and it was. A huge relief. "now i dont need to worry"

Yet here i am again, waiting on the next scan. I find myself struggling alot to be excited, because i am so worried about any issues.
Could there have been a missed miscarraige? Could something be wrong with the baby?

As Dad, all i can go off is my partners symptoms of course and just hope for the best. I feel after this scan, i will still be so nervous.

So calling other dads! Did you have these feelings? What helped you?

I would love any advice and to hear your thoughts. Thanks!

I'm not a dad, but this is so sweet. I hope one day when I have my first child with someone my partner is excited like this. I wouldn't worry though. Just take it day by day. I'm sure everything is just fine!

@MattyJ94

Hi all,

I recently found out my partner and I are expecting our first baby due January 2022.
We found out extremely early, at 5 weeks. To say I am excited would be an absolute understatement. I'm doing all the reading and learning possible, to make sure by the time baby comes i am as prepared as i can possibly be.

By nature, I am a very anxious person. I always assume the worst, and think "This amazing thing can't possibly be happening to me!"

I was so nervous for the first scan hoping everything would be fine- and it was. A huge relief. "now i dont need to worry"

Yet here i am again, waiting on the next scan. I find myself struggling alot to be excited, because i am so worried about any issues.
Could there have been a missed miscarraige? Could something be wrong with the baby?

As Dad, all i can go off is my partners symptoms of course and just hope for the best. I feel after this scan, i will still be so nervous.

So calling other dads! Did you have these feelings? What helped you?

I would love any advice and to hear your thoughts. Thanks!

Well first of all, even though you have stated that you are by nature an anxious person, it is understandable to feel that way regardless. Nevertheless, the more relaxed you can be in front of your partner, the better it will be for her. We didn't spend too much time planning ahead (apart from the obvious practicalities) and in fact; however prepared you are, nothing can really prepare you for parenthood - it's really where you learn to take things in your stride. Try not to focus on negative thoughts - the more distractions you have, the better it is for you and enjoy the last few months of it just being the two of you as it's a life changer!

I’m a mum but felt very similar to how you describe .

There’s no easy answer but a midwife once told me that once a heartbeat had been confirmed, you are drastically more likely to go home with a baby than not. Somehow this helped.

If you’ve never sought help for anxious feelings before, it might be worth a chat with your GP before the baby arrives. They should be able to help you uncover whether you’re experiencing ‘normal’ anxiety or whether you could do with a little extra support.

Good luck and congratulations OP.

I'm a dad and had the same feelings with my two. Fortunately both were born healthily and without any complications.

Totally normal mate, and unfortunately it doesn't get an awful lot better when the little ones get here. You then start to wory about them every time the cough or fall over and bump their head.
It's difficult because the baby inside your mrs is so far out of your control you are helpless to do anything.
Try and relax and enjoy the peace and quite and normal sleeping habits for now.

totally normal but try to be calm and relaxed in front of your partner, she needs you to be strong and kind

you sound lovely though! What a nice thoughtful, and caring partner you sound.