My husband moved out of our family home 3 months ago- it was a mutual agreement after a rough couple of years together following birth of DC2. It was supposed to be a trial to reignite our marriage and was only supposed to last a month.
He is still with his parents but comes back daily to help with DCs breakfast times and bedtimes. They stay with him overnight once a week also. We have been out for a couple of meals together, had brilliant sex a couple of times during this period of time, have made plans to rekindle our marriage, but nothing has come out of it. DH seems content to come and go and behaves similarly to when he lived here when he visits us- sits on the sofa on his phone, in his own world.
I need his help with DCs as they are terrible sleepers and I'm exhausted but this half in, half out life isn't on. He agrees it isn't on and I think is waiting for me to break and beg him to come back, but I need to see positive changes first and I'm just not seeing enough.
I've tried on 2 occasions now to call it a day but he pulls out all the stops for a week and it feels like we're close to fixing things, but he then pulls away again. If I'm being honest, I find him sloppy and I struggle to feel attracted to him when he's demotivated, lethargic and disinterested in me and our family life. This is the case 60% of the time.
I feel like we're in no-mans land at the moment, but I'm in need of his practical support with DCs as I have no other support here so I can't pull the plug either.
I feel stuck. I would really appreciate a man's perspective around this as I don't know what to do?