Moving for my wife

[justgivein]

We have lived in the same town for twenty years.Have a nice house,loads of room ,get on with the neighbours,there is absolutely no reason why we should move but my wife really wants to.We have found a really nice town not far away and I must admit it's great and when I'm there I could see my self being quite happy but when I get home I change my mind .We had problems before with neighbours in our last two houses and part of the reason is that I'm concerned this could happen again.My two eldest want to move ,my daughter I just don't know.But its convenient at the moment my granddaughters school being down the road for helping with pick ups and taking to school. She's split from her boyfriend but they get on well and I help him out with the school runs too which helps with their work.
I really want my wife to be happy and financially we would be better off too.But I'd rather struggle and live here for a lot longer I just don't know what to do.Anybody here move house for their partners ,how did it work out.Should I just bite the bullet and put my wife first and move?

OP you must ask yourself, can you improve on this? if you can then great. No harm in looking, right 🌺

Apologise don't understand.What can I improve on?

can you improve on this? if you can then great.

I think Snowball is saying - maybe your wife is right and there is improvement/optimisation to be made in your current living situation, so keep an open mind while doing some Rightmove window shopping!

ie. instead of looking at your current circumstances and thinking oh I don't want to lose this or that, instead look at your current circs and think "you know, it would be great to have a bigger garden/outdoor shed/be closer to the shops...and I've always wished we had french doors onto a patio..." or whatever. Think about what you are lacking now and whether you can improve those things. Might make it more of a positive experience to understand what your wife is looking for.

Also, if you are moving close by, you can definitely still pick your granddaughter up from school! I wouldn't have that as a reason not to move if it's really just within a couple of miles. My kids' school is 8 miles away and I head there twice a day, it's no distance really.

Yes thanks your right I must think more positively about a move and improving our circumstances.I do generally have a positive outlook on life helped probably by the fact my wife is stronger mentally than me,management job,good friends and she backs me up and pushes me to progress better in my job which is very important to me.I just have loved this house,kids teenage years and all the memories but must move on ,ditch the nostalgia,life is too short.Thanks for taking your time to help me think deeper about things I generally am a bit surface level when it comes to detail.My neighbour I'll miss,sorry bit negative but we laugh alot and get on really well,I help with her garden and she likes to chat.But I must crack on painting the house tonite because we on our way to Reigate,hopefully this year..That trip sounds a long way to me with rush hour,hats off to you. Will still help with grandaughter I'm not slacking on that.

Sorry OP ☺️

I just meant yes have a look and see if there is somewhere that improves your living, like Xiaoxiong said look at gardens kitchens cafes walking distances to parks, whatever you enjoy or suits your needs.

I dislike stairs to my front door, weird but true, I like a flat entrance/exit. So I would rule those properties out.

you could find a better property elsewhere, and thats great but you may of course find the grass isn't greener, but you can enjoy looking.

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