What you want your wife to do?

[SupportiveWife]

Long story cut short

DH great husband great father

re employment: DH is totally in wrong industry - very unhappy - often feels like he is not good enough, etc (mind you, in reality, he's fairly competant)

Have you ever experienced this? Did you do something about it? What did you do? What is the best way your wife could support you? What would you have appreciated? What would you NOT have appreciated?

I am trying to encourage him to change careers / retrain BUT .....

How does he/we work out what the "right" thing is so that the move is not just another mistaken career path?

Also, how do you support you husband when he feels like he lets you down because he is not "further along" in his career / earning more money / has more assets etc. I say those things are not important, but I can't change the way he feels about what he perceives is his inability to provide adequately for his family

Rambling I know - can anyone help?

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What about you, do you work, how well is your career going?

I recommend you both have a look at a book called (quite naffly, I know)

What Colour is My Rainbow

Its a book about isolating what your talents and ambitions really are and how you can put them to practical use job -wise

When I was considering a career change it reinforced for me that I was making the right changes and why.

Its often something that helps encourage what you already know, in a positive way without being dictating or formulaic.

CORRECTION - its what colour is my PARACHUTE

(sorry, baby brain)

i work in finance, just got promoted, career going well - i believe that does not bother my husband (he doesn't act like it does in anyway) although perhaps deep down it does, but i can't stop work, so no options there really

thanks for advice on book - i shall buy it today

Life coaching might be good for him at this point?

I gave up my reliable and secure day job to chase my dreams a while ago and haven't looked back. Becoming self-employed is a little risky but a lot more fulfilling.

My DW has supported me all the way and we are now much happier - although not as financially secure.

It takes effort to swallow your male pride and rely on the DW to provide the regular income - but it has dramatically improved our relationship as we are all happier and see each other a lot more now.

Don't have regrets - GO FOR IT!