Advice for non custodial parent

[LaFo]

Sorry for a long post in advance. I have been in a relationship off and on with my ex for about 4 1/2 years now. We have broke up numerous times but always end up back together. We had a son in 2019. He will be 2 this year. She lives in Texas and I live in North Dakota. She cheated on me earlier this month and then COVID hit. I got laid off and moved down there. Things were great. Just recently I moved back to North Dakota to start working again and yesterday found out she was in a relationship with someone as soon as I moved back to ND.

It’s exhausting and I really can’t stand her now. I want to focus on myself and my son. The problem is how do I do this when I don’t want to talk to her but will have too if I want to face time my son. Again he is going to be 2, so he can’t use a phone by himself. We have a visitation schedule set up and I’m paying child support. Do you think it’s wrong of me not to call every day to see him because I’m so angry at his mom? I know I have to get over that anger but it will take some time. Just wondering if anyone else has had this problem? I know she will cry and call me one night like she always does because she gets dumped but I’m over it. Just don’t know how to handle my son.

Thanks!

Hi. Yeah you need to cool the contact. I'd suggest you think about how many times a week you want to speak to your son outside contact time and stick to it. Try to minimise contact with her outside of that time speaking with your son (which I know will be hard given the age). Try not to engage on anything that isn't specific to your son. Its hard at first but over time she'll understand you're done with her.
Do you think she'll be reasonable about child access?

I think so, I think I’m going to have a cool off first though. Don’t want to get any argument or name calling. Just don’t know how many times. Will start working nights soon, so it will make it harder to see him since he will be in daycare, but maybe I can talk to the daycare about letting me see him around a certain time if I buy a phone for it? Not sure.