Large age gap of 19 years.

[Homer101]

Hi ,
I'm a dad to two 12 year old girls. Separated for 18 months from their mum. I've been stupid I think. Iv started to fall for a 21 year old women at work. She has a 2 year old and shes also signal . She also has feelings for . Iv have tried to put her off a couple of times. I've tried to put all feelings to the back of my brain a few times too. We haven't done anything physically. We have met for coffees outside of work and talk every day outside of work.
I didn't think thered be anything in it. Didn't think there would be amy future in it. I didn't think she'd even be interested in me like that when we first started talking and becoming mates.
I'm an idiot for falling for her ,for thinking there could be any future in it.

Sorry I forgot to day that I turned 40this year ! That's why I'm an idiot for all of this.

You're 40, she's 21. Give your head a wobble and be sensible. Leave her alone.

It's probably best to distance yourself. It's highly unlikely that the age gap could ever work.

Grow up

My mother was 18 and pregnant when she met my father who was 27 years older than her. They had the most incredible relationship and he brought my sister up like his own.

She's a grown woman and can make up her own mind- she's not
exactly young and naive. If she has feelings for you, as you do for her, then it's worth a go.

People need to get a grip. Age gaps mean nothing really. If you get on, you get on. No matter the age. There is nothing illegal about the age the OP is stating so what's the problem.

My other half was 18 when we started seeing each other and I was 32. We are now 5 years in and have an almost 3 year old boy. Yes we bicker and "sometimes" the bickering could be put down to the age difference but still, we are together and we are happy.

I say, if you both seem to be enjoying each others company then go for it. The worst that can happen is you both realise its not working and you break up. That's life.... just enjoy it!

As someone who did an age gap relationship of 19 years also I can tell you one thing - AVOID. There are so many reasons why, outlook on life, priorities, the difference in what constitutes a good night out.

I did it on and off for 7 years and I wish so much I could turn back the clock. Yes the appeal of young flesh is great but she simply will not share the same outlook on life as you.