how many days a week to see the kids

[Jimd2020]

so in the process of seperation and getting a seperation agreement sorted.
50/50 split just isnt practical as my work are not linient on working hours. (i managed to negotiate late starts for 3 days a week when i started with the company but thats it)
the wife works at the school my children attend.

im thinking :-
tuesday night every week to stay over take the children to school wednesday
every other weekend friday to monday morning.

also thinking of wednesday nights to stay over every other week too.

does this seem like a reasonable request. (she has already said she'd never stop me seeing the children and i can see them when i like)

Yes that sounds sensible in your situation.

A starting point is every other weekend Friday evening until Monday morning.

Building in that bit of extra time sounds sensible and will help maintain that contact / relationship with kids.

cheers, the children are my everything so i want to see them as much as i can!

as cliche as it sounds, they are my best friends!

@Jimd2020

cheers, the children are my everything so i want to see them as much as i can!

as cliche as it sounds, they are my best friends!

Whilst it's great that you want to see them as much as you can, and this sounds like a good arrangement, not dissimilar to mine, please don't think of your children as your best friends. They aren't. You are their parent and there to keep them safe and turn them into decent and responsible adults. Children shouldn't be treated as friends.

I have a feeling my ex is treating our eldest as a friend at times and it's not good. DC often takes dad's feelings on and then feels bad and guilty because he is more aware of his dad's feelings than he should be . My aunt also treated her DCs as friends and they are fairly dysfunctional adults.

My cousin is Disney dad to his child and the child is spoilt and can do not wrong.

You can be a great dad and have a close relationship without being their best friend.

i guess i mean that i spend more time with them than i do any one else.

i didnt have children to want to be away from them.

Jim I know what of you mean mate. Hope it works out as it might be a bit of a bumpy ride.

There's nothing wrong with being a friend as well as a parent.

Keeping your midweek night the same every week might be helpful - in terms of clubs, needing PE kit for the next day, homework routine etc. You and your ex need to work out how you'll communicate about things like that too. My brother and his ex are using an online diary (their situation isn't great) but it would be helpful for someone in your situation too.