Divorced, but now wants to go through courts....

[bobterryjones]

I have been divorced for almost 3 years now. We have a consent order in place that dealt with the financial side of things, house, pensions, child maintenance etc. Child care was never on the cards to discuss as I have my children regularly and we agreed from the outset when I would have them.
The arrangement has been changed a couple of times, by her, and I just went with it.
But, then out of the blue she tells me she has a meeting with a mediator to discuss the days/times that I have the children and I will be getting a call.
How can she just do this? Surely this was all dealt with when we got divorced? Otherwise, when does it stop?
I don't mind having my children more, but i do mind the fact that she has all this control AND i believe it is going to cost me too??

Any advice or similar experiences?

Thanks

Bob

It's always open for either parent to ask to change in contact arrangements. As kids get older and their circumstances change, their needs will change too.

Doesn't explain why she felt it needed a mediator's help to do that. Most parents would simply arrange it between themselves.

Here's a one page summary of what Courts expect of parents

It's a myth that mothers' have more control per se.

sorry for the typos - posted it before proof reading it.

Doesn't sound good. Why go to a mediator before coming to you. Do you think she might want more chikd maintenance or is there an issue with the kids