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Should I be concern and what should I do

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Daddie88 · 26/08/2020 03:00

My wife and I have been together for 12 years and married for 5 years. We have 2 beautiful amazing children.
We were looking at houses on her phone when a couple of messages from a Male colleague message her and said he fancied her and miss not seeing her at work even though he knew she was married with 2 kids. I confronted my wife and she knew nothing about this and doesn't really know the guy apart from saying hi whilst passing working on the shop floor. I told her she needs to tell him she is not interested and married. But she said she will ignore the text and delete it and the situation. Should I be concern and what would you do? I literally feel sick about this but my wife just argues back saying, its nothing and she doesn't have feeling for him. She will go back to work acting like she never got the text. I'm at a loss, I love my wife very much but this is eating me up.

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Aquamarine1029 · 26/08/2020 03:47

She "doesn't really know the guy", only says hi in passing, yet he has her phone number? Is that the best explanation she could come up with? That doesn't add up.

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Daddie88 · 26/08/2020 04:07

My wife mention she would block his number. She works on the shop floor and will pass him on the odd occasion and say hi and maybe stop for a chat as he has kids too but is single.

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bumbleb33s · 26/08/2020 05:03

I find it odd they have each other’s numbers, he shouldn’t have her number or him hers if she “doesn’t really know him”. So that’s a red flag and also the fact she’s arguing with you over it instead of putting your mind at rest, hmmm, something not right here for me

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Saltyauntiepoop · 26/08/2020 05:12

To be honest her reaction is like she doesnt mind getting this sort of texts.
Like shes enjoying it.

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Kona84 · 28/01/2021 22:25

Maybe he got her number from another colleague, or a work whatsapp group.
It could be totally unsolicited.

If it was me getting the message I wouldn’t ignore it as it excuses the behaviour.
I would reply that this makes me very uncomfortable and I will be contacting HR if he sends anymore.