Hi all, I'm sorry for this being my first post an all, but I'm at my wits end. I haven't got a gaggle of friends I can ask for advice. So here goes. My partner is 10 years younger than me, and I've known her since she was 28. She's now 33 and we've been together 4 years. She has 2 children 11 + 13 from a previous relationship. (I have 10 + 12 myself). Things were great..amazing if to be believed. Never had someone with the same drive as me until I met her. She was...something else!!! It hasn't been all smooth sailing though as we've had our issues in the past and we actually broke up for 6 months 2 years ago as I'd had enough. We got back together again and it seemed she was...infatuated with me. Non stop and she took it to new levels. Now it's worn off and I feel like...a stranger / odd ball in her house at times. Sex has gone from wild and wanton to..perhaps once a month if lucky. More like once every 2 months. I have to be the one to instigate it, and she generally shows no enthusiasim anymore. I'm almost to the point of giving up asking as there's only so many times you can hear "I can't be bothered". We do not currently live together but are due to move in together next month. I understand now her children are older she doesn't feel relaxed enough whilst their in the house (she's quite vocal), but when we have her house to ourselves she still can't be bothered. She's tired (a lot) - she works part time and raises two children. I work full time, and we see each other every other day. I raise my 2 children at home as I have shared custody with my ex. When I see my partner - I do all her house chores for her, and I run her kids around as much as possible, I generally cook and clean as her house is a complete mess. I wear myself out trying to make her life easier and more manageable in the hopes she'll have some "energy" for us to actually be a couple. But still nothing. There are times I'll go round and she'll just sit there scrolling through her phone, hardly engaging in conversation. And it makes me feel...neglected. If I mention something to her I'm called "needy". It's not only the sex, it's general platonic that has gone out of the window. Is it that wrong to be wanted companionship from your significant other in a relationship? I feel I do a lot for her and ask little in return apart from a bit of attention. She talks about marriage and holidays (which i take her away to some exotic places), but will rarely leave the house with me to do anything I want to unless it's with her friends. She says she was diagnosed with CFS and mild depression which I understand and try and help, but she soon finds the energy to go out with her friends all day or have them round till late at night. But she won't "come out" with me as she's tired and has no energy. It's almost "when the cap fits". She's very jealous of me having "any" female friends (like I have time to see them between her and my kids), yet she has a huge amount of male friends. If there is every any argument I'm told I do nothing to help her or her kids but I've had people tell me they can't believe how much I do for her and how lucky she is to have me. I'm generally at my wits end. One of my female friends have told me it's borderline toxic relationship and I need to listen to my head, not my heart but I cannot imagine not being with her. Yet when I'm there it's......depressing and I feel awful. I'm feeling worn out and ground down. Am I living in a dream world thinking it'll magically get better once we live together? I think it'll be more challenging if anything as suddenly they'll be 4 kids in the house. I will strive to make it work but with her current..can't be bothered attitude I feel I could be letting myself in for a massive world of pain.