helpless dad

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Hi,
At home have awesome four year old daughter and amazing partner. we also have seven month old son. he has been breastfed throughout. won’t take a bottle or pacifier. successfully weaned from 6 months. we think he has silent reflux because getting him down for sleeps is a nightmare. his back is arched and is crying for up to 40 minutes before he settles. we are doing what we can in terms of feed times, infant gaviscon, trying to burp etc. it’s taking its toll on mum and me. i feel so helpless because when i try to give my partner a break and rock my son it’s like he gets instant separation anxiety from mum. i feel so helpless. any advice what i can do more to support my partner at this time. i feel useless

Congratulations on new baby.christ yes it’s tough,and you’re acknowledging that

It’s a huge learning curve with a new baby , they are all different all have their own foibles and personality

Has the HV or GP been informed, can they help. You could get a video consultation iphone emphasise it’s urgent . If the HV have a duty or out of hours service call that

Your wife will be knackered do Help her with the domestic tasks,so she got less to do when she tired. Help out with dd, take the baby and dd out
So she can get some time to herself
Directly ask her what she needs

Can I just caution don’t get into rocking baby to sleep, time limit the rocking and try other things too. Soft Music, mobile , lights

You can help by cooking, cleaning, loojing after your older child. (bathing, dressing getting up in morning.) I think a lot of men feal that issue with a breast fed baby . Can you put him n a pram or a carrier and go for a walk with him?