hi I've been advised to come on here and see if anyone else has been in a similar situation that could help me.
A quick summary of our relationship before I begin!
10 year relationship with 2 kids both boys which the oldest isn't mind but I took him on as my own and put my name on his birth certificate which I know now is illegal to do but I was young and thought I was doing the right thing. Through the relationship she cheated on me dozens of times but only knew about the 2 with the 1st one me forgiving her (wish I didn't) the 1st time she was never home and wouldn't come home to our kids for nearly 6 months leaving me to bring them up on my own. Drinks and partying was all she did during then. The 2nd time is when we finally split because she was pretending to be at work but instead she was sleeping with a guy up the road from us and was going to stay away with him and left the kids with me again. She has had social services out 3 times and school didn't like her and told her she wasn't allowed to take them home for a few days while they stay with me at a friends. That finally got her attention and she came home but demanded she wants the kids or else.
Fast forward a few months after months of heart ache she met her current boyfriend which she then needed me as a babysitter off course, which without a doubt I had them every weekend and through the week sometimes. At the time she was always down my mums telling us about her life and how amazing her boyfriend is and even showing me photos of him on days out with him holding my kids. I was hurt by the fact another man the boys hardly know is taking over my role as a dad but I also didn't let her get into my head. 6 months had gone by and sadly I lost my sister to which she came to the funeral but even on that day she broke her neck to tell us all she's pregnant but i couldn't care less and i did say congratulations. (She did end up losing the baby) wouldn't wish that on anyone.
Then I met a really nice girl who couldn't be any more loving and such a mature person. She has a 8 yr old daughter and both her and her ex have her 50/50 and both adore her and share everything equally with no drama so you can imagine the embarrassment will going rhrough with my ex. Anyway after a few months we introduced both my 2 boys and her daughter together and had a really good evening and instantly they all liked each other. Fast forward more and i was having them every weekend without fail but then trouble started as soon as they was going back telling their mum how much they love it at my girlfriends and what they do she ended up shouting at them and saying she doesn't want to hear it.( this was from my oldest when he next came down). My youngest was so attached to my girlfriend but then my ex decided to get jealous and told him she was really ill and this is the sick part but she used (shown him the blood from (lady's time of the month) and told him she could die. Sorry to be crude here but thats how sick she is. And after that he wouldn't stay with me and had to watch him stay in the car with his mum and boyfriend. I finally had him again after a few weeks of fighting for him and I asked him why he didn't want to stay and thats when he told me what I just said above. I had her about it but she just twists it and stops me seeing them again. Then she decides that she couldn't cope with my oldest and demanded he lives with us whichbi was happy to do and a few months he changed so much. Now I am now having a baby with my girlfriend but before this my kids was told by her boyfriend that when I have another kid I wont love them anymore. ( he's as bad as her) fast forward to where I am now actually having a baby I told them both in a surprise to which they obviously told their mum and then suddenly she wanted our oldest back. That's the last time I seen my kids (3 months ago) she will no longer let me have them and has now told my oldest he isn't my son and now he hates me and doesn't want to ever see me. I finally got to hear from him last night which he told me on the phone I can talk to him on the phone but he doesnt want to see me. (He's only 11) it hurt so much but I had to respect his wishes and I've recorded the call but I couldn't show him I was mad and upset. On top of all this I have her parents who is as bad as she is or worse causing trouble and telling my kids to call my girlfriend names and some of the sick stuff they have been told to say. Bother her and her boyfriend have fully turned my kids and its hard to believe how they could be so happy at mine and then now I dont even know them anymore and I can't do anything about it. Even if I win at court and get access at weekends anything I do to make them happy she will interfere. My youngest is such a mummy's boy and will listen and do what ever she says. I've had those kids more then she has and have watched them for months cry over their mum when she never came home but thats the past and i can't do anything about it now. I feel so suicide and on top of it I have to hide it all from my girlfriend because I dont want that drama around her and her daughter. Which I have recently found out I am finally having a little girl ive always wanted so god knows how thats going to play out when the ex finds that out because she can't have kids now and she's also wanted a girl. I'm jot the one to show off or rub it in her face and thats why I couldn't tell themnlast night on the phone they are having a baby sister otherwise I would risk not getting to hear them again. Its took 3 months to hear there voice and that was only because they asked about child support maintenance (why is a 11 and 8 yr old asking me them questions?
Wow sorry to rant on guys and I've only gave you a small portion of what she puts me through. She is very clever and its not just her I'm fighting for my kids with, its her boyfriend and her parents. It gets me so mad because he has only known my kids a yr and already he has control over them which I also forgot to mention that everything im on the phone to my kids I always hear him in the background telling her to put the phone down and ive been blocked of my kids phones and playstation account. I just can't take it anymore