Not allowed to see kids

[Stellanella]

Mother of my kids (10 and 9) has stopped me seeing them due to corona.. none of us including our partners are shielded/vulnerable and no one is isolating due to symptoms, is it ok to apply to court? We have a court order and she’s flatly refusing for me to see them and is being a dick about indirect contact too, putting restrictions on when and how it happens!

Allowing children of separated parents to move between their parents is a specific exemption in social distancing rules, so she has no reason to do this. Have you told her you are thinking of applying to the court?

Yep. Told her that she’ll leave me no option but to apply to court and I’ve tried hard to reason with her. I’ve said we are all obeying the rules, all healthy, etc. I should have seen it coming really she’s always been awkward with contact but I didn’t honestly think she would be low enough to use this to stop contact!

Her interpretation of the statement made by the President of family court is that if she thinks is safer to keep the kids with her then the courts are on her side. Even tho I’ve tried to point out that “safe and practical” means does it involve a contact centre, can you avoid public transport, is anyone self isolating or high risk... if no to all then obviously it is safe and practical. Live 10 minutes down the road from her and we both drive. No contact centre or supervision etc involved with contact just straightforward drop off at my gate!

Feel your pain on this. I have a similar issue. If she loves her children, she would do something she doesn't want to do.

You may wish to refer her to that part of the statement. I referred my ex to it, and although she is reluctant, she is dealing with my children rebelling.

Mums/dads fill different roles in a child's life that are equally important for their development. Countless studies have proven that. She's putting herself before the children, and a court wouldn't look favourably on that, unless she could justify a legitimate safety risk.

@Vretz I’ve already quoted that part.. the go through extra mile do it for your children bit.

Bloody sh*t isn’t it. I’ve just filled a form for enforcement because otherwise I might not see them properly til next year at this rate there’s no legit reason just the fact that there is a pandemic.