Advice, help, what do i do?

[Satanvomitsinmykettle]

I have been married for 35 years most of it happily. My wife has always had a temper and could cut off communications between us for weeks over virtually nothing. My wife started going through the menopause 6 years ago and this is a whole new hell. I have been as understanding as I can but this is becoming beyond a joke. I dread coming home from work as I don't know what I am walking into. Every week in life she loses it for the simplest of things.
She refuses to go to the doctor for any treatment but does not see how this is effecting our relationship. Our sex life has gone a long time ago which is another factor.
The issue I have is that anything to do with me becomes a big deal and gets blown out of proportion which allows her to vent.
This usually manifests itself by screaming at the top of her lungs at me at any time of the day or night.
Her behaviour towards me and the contempt she treats me with is off the scale.
This also takes the form of anything that happens whether I am there or not is my fault and I bear the brunt.
She has fallen out with every friend she ever had and most of, if not all of my friends which if I go and see or communicate with constitutes not supporting her... = Screaming match
Now she wants a divorce split 50/50 which is fine but since when does the house and our holiday home abroad constitute 50/50.
Sorry for rambling but I really can't take anymore of this.

Give her the divorce that she wants.

It doesn't sound like a relationship worth fighting for.

50/50 on the house and holiday home would probably mean selling them and splitting the equity.

Spousal maintenance is not often awarded, but if it is make sure that if it is it is time limited and also reduces overtime.

Just be aware that whatever you do she will probably spin this so that you are the bad guy and she is the victim.

Someone will probably be along in a while to say that they would like to know her side of the story. Get used to this as it will probably go on for sometime.

And definitely go for a clean break in the divorce.

I think you’d be happier if you just walked away from the situation

@BoneyBackJefferson Thanks, but she asked for a 50/50 but she wants all of the house and the holiday home. She will do this so she will not need to attack my pension.

Sorry I don;t think I made this clear.

Technically its 50/50 then as she is trading her share of your pension for your share of the house and holiday home.

You ideally need to see a specialist about this to see if the trade off is a fair one.

Do you have children and, if so, did her earning potential reduce as a result of time at home with them/ reduced promotion chances/ part time earnings etc. If so, she could go for more than 50/50 which could be fair enough if you're still a while away from retiring.

You need legal advice as a matter of urgency. And advice on how things would be affected if you moved away from the screaming banshee into a rented flat or something.

Make a diary if everything and everytime she loses it and shouts and why. It sounds like some sort of verbal abuse tbh but get yourself a good lawyer and get out that marriage!