Guys, need your advice ......

[Giana]

Im interested in a guy and I think the feeling is mutual. I sent him a couple of texts to get things started, but he didnt reply

Next time I saw him I played it cool. Later, I caught his eye and he gave me a long, lingering look. He gave me a big hug and kiss on the cheek when we said goodbye. I would love to text him, but Im afraid of coming on too strong again. Should I leave it to him to make the next move? Do guys really prefer to do the chasing?

Are you Gina F in disguise?

No. Im confused ....

Take it as read that he is single and available?

Good! Makes things easier.

Unless he's gay, if he didn't fancy you AT ALL then you would be invisible to him. A hug and a kiss on the cheek is a good start, believe me!

As, indeed, is a long and lingering look.

Thanks for the reply UnquietDad. He is available, but only just. Ive known him for years. He broke-up with his partner last year. She is also a good friend of mine, so hence the hesitation. He is also very shy & reserved.

I'll stand back and let him make his move in his own good time. I think about him all the time though! First embrace, first kiss, first time we make love ......

Do men daydream & fantasize like that too ???????

No Giana.
No they dont.

You've just burst my bubble

But I thought men thought about sex every 8 mins ?? Or is that just dirty sex with porn stars ??

If he didn't reply, I'd say he's not interested. Sorry.

They think about sex but I think they skip the first kiss bit.

They really just don't ever play games, so, if he didn't reply, he is not interested, sorry. If he was or is he will make a move because he knows you are into him. IMO the lingering look and kiss on the cheek are him massaging his own ego because he knows you fancy him.

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Did any of this actually happen Giana, or did you just want to talk about fantasies in the mens room?

OMG! Do you have to be sooooooo harsh ????

Sorry for bothering you all. I'll go elsewhere.

Thought so

he's just not that into you

move on......

Agree with the mighty Dior. He may be shy...but...jusy not wishing to get involved with you from the sound of it..perhaps doesn't wish to wreck any other relationships on-going. Yep, move on, and don't text again, no. Chances are you will end up looking and feeling an arse. IYSWIM..

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Giana

They say faint heart never won fair maid - is he temporarily or permanently faint-hearted? I think he may be a bit mixed up. I finished with a frankly unpleasant GF (that's NOT Gina Ford in case her Solicitors are reading this) and wanted a big breathing space and was determined not to get involved until I'd had a couple of years of living solo.

Thing is, I ran into the woman who became my DW the next week. She was very confused with me because I liked her a lot, but wanted to keep my distance. Luckily for me she put up with the mixed messages and enjoyed the better parts until she became such an inextricable part of my life that I could never imagine being without her. Whether you would do the same thing depends on whether you think he's the right one.