Anyone's partner had cosmetic surgery? Spec. Boob job?

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DW is wanting a boob job. I appreciate her reasons for wanting one and want to support her in finding the right surgeon and clinic, but I'm not completely sold on the idea. I just wanted to get any other mens views on how they felt pre/post op.
TIA

Do you think her tits are nice as they are?

sorry, keep chatting

As far as I remember, absolutely. She hides them, though. Loss of confidence in her own body is one of her reasons for wanting the op.

If it will make he happier with her body then she should go for it. It will make things better for you both i reckon - in the sense that she will feel and dress and act more confidently.

Plus a good handful always brightens up my day................

If she isnt happy with them she will never let you enjoy them,

If this is what she wants then support her.

Its very hard to appreciate your body after having a baby, it changes completly and if this is going to make her more confident and happy then tell her you will be there for her.

I too want a boob job and if my DH wasnt supportive of it then I would be very upset.

I had some aesthetic surgery done (I am on the 8% of patients who is a bloke) and my GF supported me. The decision to have it was a rational decision on my part and if she hadn't been understanding, supportive and non-judgmental, I think we would have parted company at that point (although we split up a bit later anyway).

Make sure she uses a surgeon who is a member of the British Association of Aesthetic Plastic Surgeons (with the rather appropriate acronym of BAAPS ).

Make sure she steers clear of "mcsurgery" , otherwise she might end up even more unhappy about them.

Thanks Daddster.
She's definately doing her research (BAAPS etc.) and has been looking into it for about a year, although only raised it with me 2 weeks ago, hence me still feeling a bit anxious.
Can I ask if you had GA or LA for your procedure and what were your experiences?

Hmm... McSurgery... do you get fries with that?

The abnormality (I'll spare you the details) I lived with was starting to get me down and occupying too much thought-time. I didn't need counselling and I don't have low self-esteem - I am intelligent individual (even though I do say so myself , I put a lot of thought in to it, weighed up the pros and cons and decided to do it. It's the same with overlapping/missing teeth etc. which is obviously cosmetic too, but some people feel somehow that cosmetic surgery is "a bridge too far".

I had GA and I was apprehensive too - there is obviously a risk with GA and with any invasive procedure. After the op, there was a bit of bruising, it felt like I'd been kicked and I was very thirsty for a couple of days. The difference in appearance was not enormous (which is good thing, otherwise you have to deal with "hey - haven't you changed?"), but it was sufficient to make me feel a lot better about my looks and I felt a weight off my mind.

Incidentally, the argument that once you've had CS, you're never satisfied, you start wanting if for other parts of your body and end up looking like Jocelyne Wildenstein is tosh. If anything, it stops you worrying about your appearance and you can get on with the more important things in life. I feel no compunction whatsoever to have any more done.

McSurgery? You get fried with that...

Thanks. She's definately trying to avoid the "haven't you changed" brigade. Someone spouting judgemental propaganda isn't going to change her view, but it's still likely to cause unnecessary upset, so we're not going to mention the op to anyone.
Was your thirst a side effect of the GA, or more to do with the actual procedure?

Not sure, but my guess would be that the thirst was a result of the op and my body trying to repair itself - I felt like I had taken a stiff shoeing!

Hey FOP - looks like there's a burgeoning (and more natural) alternative to silicon. According to this report she might be able to have liposuction and breast enhancement at the same time. Sounds like your DW might have to wait a few years for the procedures to bed-down (IMHO it's never a good idea to be at the - ahem - "cutting edge" of plastic surgery) but it might be a better option for her in the long term (less cutting and stitching etc.).

I had mine done, did restore some of my confidence, tell your DW to check out this website full of vital info from woman who have had it done