How would Dadsnet be different?

[UnquietDad]

This is a serious question, and not one inviting cheap shots.

There would be more discussion of football and rugby (fair enough) and probably golf (yaaaaaaaaaawn).

There would be a Cars section. Like them or not (and I don't especially) more men are into them than women.

I imagine there would be less bitchery, and not as many all-encompassing comments like "all women are stupid."

There woukd be a dedicated Music section for discussing our ALPHABETICALLY-arranged (is there any other way?) CD collections.

Any more??

Fergie from BEP is a minger.

A friend and I, until recently, used to exchange the FHM Top 100s with our own ratings next to the babes - VV (2 ticks) for "definitely would, without question", V for "maybe", O for "not bovvered", X for "active turn-off" and XX for "you must be joking, I would rather turn gay than shag that creature."

Only about 6 got a VV. Among mine were Jayne Middlemiss (slurp), Salma Hayek and Louise Wener. Most got O. Paris Hilton, Jordan, Posh Spice and various supermodels have been among my XXs.

if there was a dadsnet you would all stand around in a line slightly irregularly, but not quite facing each other

one of you would start a conversation and leave a pause

the others would stand there waiting for you to finish your story because they don't recognise a conversational pause when they see it

the one who started the conversation will then stop talking

continue ad nauseum

you would all have your hands in your pockets rattling loose change and you would be discussing the best route from A to B

If they had a meet-up, they'd spend the days leading up to it talking about the logistics of getting there, the meet-up would have conversations consisting largely of "which way did you come, then?" with anecdotes about knotty problems round Basingstoke one-way system and the aftermath would be about tortuous journeys home.

snap hunker and jools!!

Posts advertising tickets for music and sport events would be a main part of the classifieds section.

meetups would be big night down a pub where theyve got the footie on sky and nobody would talk at all.

eh?

Every other thread would be "why is she so moody?"

And I bet none of them would bother talking about their kids´ school problems, health, growing pains or any other matter related to children.. bit pointless being called dadsnet really.

I think that sums it up maymay

worldgonewild - bunch of blokes down the pub watching football on the sky channel via big screen tv mounted on wall of pub. much cheering no conversation.

any better?!

I vaguely remember that when FathersDirect had a chat bit (don't think it still does) there were lots of threads on sex (fair enough) and a few on Oh How Excluded I Am Because The Midwive Talks To My Wife When I'm Pregnant Too.

Well, it is a bit patronising to be excluded from the conversation with the midwife/HV/ other when you've made the effort to come along. I remember at least one consultation - second scan for ds, I think - where I was not even greeted or looked in the eye. Maybe most mothers don't turn up wih a DH in tow and they were embarrassed to ask "Who is this jerk?"

maymay - How judgemental of you. I disagree! The whole point of a Dadsnet would be for men to talk about their families AS WELL as other stuff, just like here.. There are plenty of other places to chat about JUST sport, cars and sci-fi.

i can discuss alpabetically arranged music collections along with the next person! don't assume women don't like music -start threads

unquiet dad, we have our music collection AND our DVD collection alphebetised, with some smaller folders (we have them in those black folders, and store the cases in the loft) for sub genres.
would you care to continue the discussion?

yes, i know this ounds really sad, but it was the only way i could get dh to tidy up

I think a 'Parentsnet' is more effective; both Mums and Dads. It however probably wouldn't sell very well with that title, hence Mumsnet is what we have. Mumsnet is accessible to both Mums AND Dads already but maybe it should incorporate other topics (?). Don't know but, I'm happy with the way things are.

To refer back to other poster's comments about men 'just go down to the pub, watch football, grunt and don't talk about their kids'....nothing could be further from the truth in my experience but, maybe I'm just lucky knowing the people I do!

would it have a section entitled
'things i like to do in my shed'?
dh would sign up for Shednet if there was one

Cremola - you may think you are joking, but it exists!!

oh no there goes all or family time.
Am horrified, but laughing on the outside.

There is no interest you can't find covered on the Internet if you look hard enough...

i'm sure

I listened to two men talking at a toddler group I go to recently.

They had one topic of conversation.....football

They go every week and presumably know each other well.

I did ask for a shed topic on mumsnet but was politely ignored!

PMSL @ shednet

Topics my dh would like include:

Motorcycle Tinkering (a derivative of sheds, I suppose, except it has to be done in the garage): he doesn't actually ride the damn thing, he just tinkers with it endlessly.

Other Associated Tinkering: to include things like 'getting the Rayburn to work', 'fixing leaking toilets', 'screwdriver comparisons', etc.

Farting: just general fart-related conversation (loudest, smelliest, worst place to do one... that kind of thing)

Style: 'Black or grey t-shirt with my jeans today? Decisions, decisions' and 'How long can I leave my beard untrimmed before my dw starts divorce proceedings?'

Education: 'Help me explain the offside rule to my two dds'

Christmas: 'Someone explain to me why it is necessary to think about this before appox midday on Christmas Eve'