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Do you think that the internet means we will raise a generation of men who ALL regularly use porn?

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morningpaper · 15/11/2006 21:21

I mean, it's so easy - you want a wank, you sit down, you do a Google image search and there is everything you can possibly imagine at your fingertips. Why NOT use porn, when it is so easy?

Do you think that this means we will raise a generation of men who ALL regularly use porn? Who just never do without?

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motherinferior · 15/11/2006 22:07
WideWebWitch · 15/11/2006 22:07

Oh god, what a fking depressing thought. Mind you, they don't need to go on the internet, they can buy a daily newspaper or a lads mag to get porn. I'm an old fembot (I think, if it means feminist I am anyway!) too and I find the routine depiction of women as dumb, hairless gagging for it objects really depressing. It makes me want to cry everytime I look at the cover of bloody Nuts! or Wankers! or whatever they're called.

notasheep · 15/11/2006 22:09

Dont think you get Anal virgins in a lads mag.
Before we know it men will be having sex with a hole in their computer screen

NotQuiteCockney · 15/11/2006 22:09

I have some time for the feminist line on porn, but I don't think I entirely buy it. And I'm too tired to even begin to explain why.

I do think porn should be porn, and newspapers should be newspapers, though! And those lads mads are icky.

NotQuiteCockney · 15/11/2006 22:10

Oooh, actually, someone already invented a sex suit for net sex, like ages ago, but it was for women, not for men. And now I can't find it on the net. I think the French did it ...

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morningpaper · 15/11/2006 22:16

I know that porn has always been around but now it is SO easy, you don't need to think about it.

Before, you might have thought "hmmm I fancy some porn" but it took a lot to act on it - going to shop, choosing something, buying something. What was probably an activity that took a lot of time and fore-thought is now something that appears on your desk, just for your casual use

It's just SO easy, that wanking without porn seems somehow radical

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morningpaper · 15/11/2006 22:18

and - like you say - it is more accessible to children

I mean, a 12 year old experimenting with sex is 1980 was one thing - and finding images was probably quite hard (am I the only person to drool in horror and fascination over their parent's Joy Of Sex?). But now, the curious 12 year old can find out EVERYTHING in seconds.

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dinosaur · 15/11/2006 22:19

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Rhubarb · 15/11/2006 22:20

It's not that easy, do you not have to sign up for porn sites? Just like buying a mag I should have thought.

Am I the only one who has a dh who doesn't look at porn on the internet? How do I know? Because he's not very computer literate so I would know!

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morningpaper · 15/11/2006 22:31

no Rhubarb it's that easy, you don't have to sign up

Go to google images, turn off safesearch, and find whatever you want

or there are plenty of sites that offer free porn that are really well known - thehun.com has been running for about 10 years I think!

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Rhubarb · 15/11/2006 22:33

Hmmm, that is bad then. Agree that the internet needs more controls put on it.

But I doubt it will make all men a nation of pc wankers. That's a bit extreme!

UnquietDad · 15/11/2006 22:49

I sometimes worry more that the Internet will raise a generation of men who regularly get into net-arguments with people, in which they quote each point of the argument, in sequence but out of context, with a lame counter-argument underneath each bit - thus losing the impetus of the thrust of the WHOLE. A generation unable to distinguish between ARGUMENT and plain CONTRADICTION! (Yes, like in the Monty Python sketch.)

But seriously. Porn? At school there were always lads who brought porno mags in and had a chuckle over them in the corner. If they wanted them, they knew where to get hold of them. And there were those who were not bothered. I think in all my teenage years, the only porno mag I saw (further than the cover) was ripped in half and trodden into the bottom of a phone-box. I didn't fancy picking it up.

There will be men who use it, and there will be men who don't find it very arousing as it only appeals to two out of the five senses - possibly the least sensual of the five. Maybe in twenty years' time when we have full sensory surround-experience holodeck sniff'n'touch porn... where you can summon up a virtual Kim Wilde*, indistinguishable from the real thing, to do your perverted bidding... THAT might be worth having. But until then...

*2006 version, since you ask. She's got hotter with age.

UnquietDad · 15/11/2006 22:53

Porn novels are, in many ways, a lot sexier than graphic images as they can describe everything in quitre an erotic way and appeal to all the senses.

DW bought some Black Lace books a few years back for a laugh - they were fairly raunchy but not as graphic as other lines (e.g. they seemed to have a ban on mention of bodily fluids).

If anyone remembers, these were the Virgin books supposedly written for women, by women (yeah, right - I know for a fact that at least two gay men wrote for the line)...

expatinscotland · 15/11/2006 22:54

Quite, Dad.

I had this incredibly HOT boyfriend when I was 18.

We went to a friend's (a couple) and the bloke puts on this porn film.

the other girl and I was sort of put off by it, so we went into the kitchen to get stoned.

Came back out in the living room, and her bf was spanking it in front of this movie whilst my bf was reading SPIN magazine. He just calmly looked up and said, 'Are you ready to go home now?'

Yep!

It didn't do anything for either of us.

I mean, c'mon, why watch porn when you can pick up the real thing on the no. 25 bus?

There's no ride like that at Disneyland, baby!

Rhubarb · 15/11/2006 22:56

Ha! I used to read those in the library as a kid to learn about sex - but I found them really boring! In the end I turned to the biology books!

Dh doesn't particularly get turned on by porn either. He says he did his fair share as a teenager just like any other, but he has little interest in it now and I've told him that all porn websites are rife with viruses that will infect the pc and can even retrieve his bank details!

UnquietDad · 15/11/2006 22:57

"There's no ride like that at Disneyland, baby!" LOL.

And I can't imagine sitting down to watch porn with a bunch of mates. The whole idea makes me shudder.

Although - referring back to morningpaper's original post - "you want a wank, you sit down, you do a Google image search..." Actually, having a wank sitting down is really quite UNCOMFORTABLE...

Did I say that out loud??

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morningpaper · 15/11/2006 22:58

really? I find it's absolutely fine

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Rhubarb · 15/11/2006 23:00
UnquietDad · 15/11/2006 23:00

expat, the riders of the no.25 bus in your neck of the woods must be hotter and more up for it than those in mine... I'm thinking pensioners and chavs, mainly!!

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morningpaper · 15/11/2006 23:02

yeh and really MOST of our husbands probably don't have their "pick of the real thing" because they just have a fat knackered housewife scrubbing the kitchen floor in a pinny

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Tortington · 15/11/2006 23:02

they use it anyway dont they?

i think too many times porn equates regular wanking - a substitute.

women just get aroused a different way - thats why some mags have words!

and why some websites for women - have stories only.

to me porn equates with teenagers who want it and arn;t getting it - in the razzle top shelve/sit at puter and wank format.

Rhubarb · 15/11/2006 23:03

Custy - are you bloody stalking me?

HuwEdwards · 15/11/2006 23:04

No I don't.

UnquietDad · 15/11/2006 23:07

Agree that those wank-books were aimed at women because it was thought that men wouldn't read to get aroused. There was a gay men's line too. The authors seemed to overlap. The psedonyms fooled nobody (Cressida daCosta and Voluptua DeClementis and stuff like that.)

I'm still thinking about my virtual Kim Wilde, thanks to you lot.

Sugarfree · 15/11/2006 23:09

I have a question for UnquietDad.How are porn mags appealing to 2/5 senses?
Eyes obviously but...do you stroke them? Smell them? Lick them?