my ex wont let me see my child

[missmybaby]

I split with the ex and since then im not allowed, by her, to see my son who was one year old this week. Theres no reason for this except to hurt me, i havnt seen my boy for seven weeks now. Since he was born i have been a hands on father, feeding, changing, bathing,dressing, playing with my son, every day when not at work and all weekend. Literally over night i cant see him. It started off that i had to be supervised because i might not bring him back, eventually i agreed but then it had to be a contact centre, witch im sorting out, but now im getting calls from my ex at all hours of day and night saying that they are moving away to scotland and im never going to see my boy again. Ive gone for mediation as well, but shes not even responded, so it looks like it will end up in court. Her family are saying the same to me inbetween threats and insults by txt and facebook for everyone to see. Do i have any rights? I work but i cant always afford 60 pounds to ask the solicitors a question, i feel like ending my life, i love my boy, hes my life, why do i have to suffer this way because my ex feels like doing this to me.?????

Yes you have rights, as does your son. The focus of the legal systems I'll be on what benefits your son, and from what you say it sounds like contact with you would be a good thing (provided there are no issues such as abuse of him or your ex partner). You will need a solicitor. Get a family law specialist, make an appt with every question you an think of written down and take it from there. Good luck.

Oh my god op how awful for you

I have no read advice for you afraid but good for you for fighting for your little baby and I hope some more knowledgable posters come along soon.

But what ever you do, Do not give up on your child no matter how hard it gets, and I wish you all the very best x

I don't think that's anything any of us can answer. It's best to just focus on ensuring that you have the relationship with your child that your child is entitled to have. If that means asking the courts for assistance, then you just have to, I'm afraid. Self represent if you can't afford a solicitor.

I'm not sure how you'd stand trying to prevent her from moving, but certainly courts would ensure that an order provided for you to maintain a good relationship with your child.

In an ideal world, parents would both act in the best interests of their child and put their differences to one side in order to be effective co parents, but that doesn't always happen so we all have to deal with things as they are.

I assume that you have assured your ex that all you are interested in is a relationship with your child and that you will do nothing that would damage that? It's important that the two of you don't get into battles.

Go down the court route if that's what you have to do, ensure that you keep your difficulties with your ex partner totally separate from your son and that he never ever gets caught in the middle of it from your side.

I hope that things work out in the best interests of the child. Good luck.

Don't go into this half hearted, you need to have a firm position on this and stick to it.

You can get court orders that will prevent your child from being moved away from you, but you will have to see this through especially if your ex says things like "I have decided that you can see the child but only if you don't go to court" etc. these are easy to say and even easier to go back on.