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Men v Women

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MindShaker · 08/07/2006 11:33

I have been reading some posts and i must say how alarmed i am with the majority of womens attitudes towards men.

ask yourselves these few questions:

are all men the same?
do we like the sames things?
do we all support the same football teams?
do we all enjoy cricket?
do we all smoke?
do we all drink?
do we all do the same work?
do we all cheat on our partners?
do we all enjoy reality tv?

and we could go on forever couldnt we?
the answer to these few questions is NO

we all make our own choices, we are individuals.

we have good attributes that we have learned and some we have from our beginnings from our parents ect

the same goes for the bad attributes.

so we are not all the same.

answer these few questions

do they all moan?
do they all whinge?
do they all like handbags and shoes?
do they all like the same things?
do they all like X factor?
do they all like to gossip?
do they all like to bitch?
do they all to put other women down?
do they all think they are right?

the answer to the above is
YES!!

if you had two islands 1000 miles apart,
1 had 100 men on it and the other had 100 women

which island would be the most calm most contented and which island would advance more quickly?

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MindShaker · 08/07/2006 14:38

Edam- your attitude to men is the same as mens have been to women from day one. It is not right.

Women & men should be equal but we know that there not.

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MindShaker · 08/07/2006 14:39

Gingeme - Yes

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LittleCarlos · 08/07/2006 14:39

SO you work and obviously get days off... can I ask when your wife gets her day off from her full time job of looking after the children and house?

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MindShaker · 08/07/2006 14:41

I get 2 full weekends a month, do physical work come home saturday recover & sunday go golfing & to the park with the kids

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Gingeme · 08/07/2006 14:42

I honestly couldnt live without a man! I did for 4 years when I split up from my ex and was so glad my Dad was near at the time. I know how to change a fuse on a plug and stuff like thast but I think alot of it is to do with the safety aspect of the whole thing. I think I feel safer in male company than female company. Think thats drummed into us from when were small. Like most Super Heros are male and people like Fire'men', Police'menetc...yet there as many women who do these jobs(I have 2 police women friends) just as well as any man. Would you trust a male midwife?

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MindShaker · 08/07/2006 14:42

And a couple of evenings in the week my wife goes out for a few hours while i look after our kids as she needs the break otherwise she would be with them 24/7

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Gingeme · 08/07/2006 14:44

Sounds like you got it sussed MS [SMILE]

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MindShaker · 08/07/2006 14:45

Sussed in a good way or a bad way?

How does your life work? do you and your partner have set routines?

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MindShaker · 08/07/2006 14:49

Male midwives - I have no problem with this honestly

I think that any man that can deliver a baby is a PROPER man & i respect, my only miner concern may be if he was gentle enough i suppose which may sound mad but men are more heavy handed than women.

Would you trust a male midwife yourself?

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Gingeme · 08/07/2006 14:55

A good way. My dh does shift work but he has his jobs he does and I have mine. For eg if he cooks I wash up and vice versa. As Im preg at the mo he emptys the litter tray and bin. Ill polish and scrub the bathroom and he hoovers and mops the floor. He drives the car I spend his money when he drives me to the shops he he. Yes I would trust a male midwife. My gp is male after all which I actualt prefer because I think female gps can be judgemental at times.

Gingeme · 08/07/2006 15:01

Well honey I realy hate to leave this has been a brill thread. My parent are visiting soon so Ill say ttfn. Take Care of yourself and yours. Ill try to catch you tomm.

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MindShaker · 08/07/2006 15:05

you got a top bloke then,but that isnt me, i should be better around the house i know but i get lazy whan i come home, physically done in and i just want to switch off. if my wife looks after the kids all day and had to come and help me dig a hole at the end of her day i believe it would be the same

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MindShaker · 08/07/2006 15:06

ok thanks your ok for a woman

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fullmoonfiend · 08/07/2006 19:16

blimey, went out with the kids and came back to find proper discussions going on!

I have 2 boys and a dh, who is a top bloke. He works full time and I work 4 days a week (though within school hours. Prior to that I was a stay-at-home mum.

But dh doesn't do very much round the house; not because he expects me - ie the woman - to do everything, but simply because stuff doesn't bother him. I have more energy and a lower tolerance of mess/dirt/smelly undies etc

It does worry me that the boys see me doing so much and could end up with this image in their heads of ''this is what women do''. So they are now being encouraged to help lots. As it goes, I do most of the cleaning, washing, household management, shopping, cooking, baking etc. But I also do the gardening, car washing, spider-removal, lawn mowing, yard sweeping, bin emptying, plug-changing, lego-building and some DIY. So no obvious division of male/female roles here.

I would prefer they got a message of daddy is lazier than mummy - rather than x,y and z are 'women's work', while a,b,c are 'men's work.'

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MindShaker · 08/07/2006 19:50

i think we tolerate mess a little easier, it doesnt matter to me if the house is untidy a little but my wife needs it to be kept tidy and i think the majority are the same.

maybe i should move into the shed and wallow in my own mess all happy

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MindShaker · 08/07/2006 19:52

women have the staying power dont they,

you lot never stop!!!!!

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blackandwhitecat · 08/07/2006 21:00

I think just looking after young kids is a full-time job. It's as physically and emotionally demanding as paid work and sometimes more. You wouldn't expect nursery staff or a child minder to do your housework as well as look after your kids would you? I work p/t 3 days a week and on my days at home (not days off) I do bits round the house when I can. I do most of the shopping and over half of the cooking but dh does at least 50% of the rest of the housework over the week. I always wonder what the kids do when their mums are constantly cleaning. I think being with the kids is a much more valuable use of my time than scrubbing floors. Dh is brilliant but wouldn't strike you as a 'new man' type. He's very sporty and hard-working, he just loves me, his kids and wants to be fair.

monkeytrousers · 12/07/2006 09:47

Where are all the evolutionary theorists? I'm not starting on my own!

ameli · 16/07/2006 22:06

i was asking my neice and nephew what they would like to be when they are older,

nephew." i want to be a fireman" (proudly)
neice, " no, you cant . I want to be a fire man!!"

nephew, You cant!! you are just a girl, you cant be anything...you are gonna be a mummy, and thats it!

needless to say i was shocked at this and had to give him a talk , women are not just mummies! we are very important and we can do any thing we want!

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