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Opinions on marital duties

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GusFringsGString · 30/09/2013 12:51

Hi,
This is a really tricky question to ask with coming across as a real twat. Anyway I was just interested in seeing the general opinions on marital duties in the bedroom. I 've been conditioned into believing (not sure on this one) believe that no partner should accept the idea of marital duties as sexual contact should always be between two fully consenting adults.
Any thoughts appreciated, happy to take abuse if appropriate.

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AgathaF · 10/10/2013 20:00

I agree with 78 re the not having sex. Although perhaps you could do no sex for a month, but commit to no strings attached massage once a week? Make it a comfortable, relaxing time, rather than a prelude to something else.

I don't think telling her to initiate all the time is good either. Too much pressure on her.

I know you're between a rock and a hard place (scuse the pun) but maybe concentrating on maintaining some couple time in your relationship whilst the DC are young is the best thing. Keeping the building blocks in place for when the DC are older and things get a little bit more back to 'normal'.