Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Dadsnet

Speak to new fathers on our Dads forum.

The Rage

3 replies

Commodore · 12/08/2012 10:24

Greetings. Am new to the forum, although DW is a regular on here, so thought I would take the plunge. Hmm

The Rage. How do other hubbies cope? DW is 26 weeks pregnant and prone to episodes of being extremely bad tempered, which for the best part I am putting down to her feeling heavy and hormonal. I hope that doesn't sound too condescending, but DW isn't like this normally and by her own admission has said "it's the hormones" after everything has calmed down (although not always).

Anyway, am stuck in the middle of another bout of The Rage at the end of a long day, upon which after I was accused by DW of not standing up for her when she was arguing with someone (a long story, which isn't worth repeating on here). That was last night and DW is still not talking to me. I made her breakfast (as I do every morning) and she refused it, coming downstairs to make exactly the same thing herself.

For the record, this is not the first time DW has said she feels I haven't stood up for her. I would, always, just not for something that in my mind is utterly trivial - it won't make any difference, just lead to DW shouting and being stressed, and myself worrying what effect this might have on our unborn child.

These tempers happen maybe every 2-3 weeks or so. The pattern - as I see it - is that DW starts stewing and needs to take it out on someone, the end result being that it is normally me. I tend to deal with it by trying to talk it out, but when this doesn't work, staying out of DW's way until she has calmed down. Her teenage son (so my SS) lives with us and am worried that he will start to become affected by this, although he's a very easy-going kid and doesn't seem particularly bothered so far.

So, any tips on how to manage this kind of thing? I'm starting to feel a bit useless. Confused

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
Homebird8 · 12/08/2012 10:47

DH says beer, work and beer. Work harder at work so you're tired when you get home and it just washes over you.

Shock Shock Shock

My personal view is that at 26 weeks you just need to tell her how understanding you are of her discomfort, be available for sex at a moments notice (DH was exhausted by me not work in reality), keep making breakfast, and suck it up for the next 20 years or so Wink

Actually, love, love and more love will be all she's wanting really. You know how to do it. Just be you. The breakfast making, MN posting, child welfare worrying, lovely you!

SilkySilky · 13/08/2012 22:21

I feel your pain.

Frankly i would just agree with her as often as you can. I have tried arguing, but it just ends in a riot, so cant be bothered and let her nonsense wash over me now.

Deep breate, count to 10, and think of something else when she starts.

Commodore · 18/08/2012 22:01

Thanks for the advice. The Rage ebbed away and we have once again sailed into a period of relative calm.

I don't like apologising if I feel it is completely unwarranted, but it is easier... Reluctant to try beer, if only because I now get shocking hangovers after anything more than two pints. Angry

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread