hello newbie here

[singledadof2]

Didn't know where to put this so thought i'd start a new thread.
Single father of two children. Daughter of 14 and a son of 10.
Having a nightmare of a time with my daughter for the last year and have been reading the threads on teenagers on here and as i already knew i'm not the only one to be having problems. Anyway quick intro about me...I'm a taxi driver who works exclusively night shifts ( my own business) and i have a long term girlfriend of nearly six years who is quite a bit younger than me and is not the childrens mother.
I have had the childeren living with me full time for almost 4 years now as their mother abused my daughter and neglected my son whilst under the influence of cannabis ( upto 30 joints a day) and drinking heavily. They have only just recently visited their mother after she was told by her doctors that she was dying, she's 36 yrs old.
Anyway i think that should suffice for an introduction.

Hi and welcome:)
Dadsnet is a bit quiet, not many post on it. Have a look at _Chat and jump right in, there's also a single parents topic if you'd like to have a look. Sounds like you've been through the mill, hope you like it here:)

hello singledadof2,

Hope you find MN as useful as I have, my husband lurks here sometimes

have a welcome glass of , if you are not working,

is the most common question asked when in a taxi, "so been busy then?"

Teenagers are the hard bit, don't worry they do get through it, and it does eventually get better.

Welcome singledadof2

Agree with Snail, not much through traffic on the dads bit, so lone parents might be a better bet.

I went through a slightly similar thing with DS1s dad recently, he had Hep C and chronic cirrhosis of the liver (sp?) but DS1 decided he didn't want to see him after 7 years of no contact..

That's very very brave of your DC it must have been such a tough decision for them, i know it was for DS1 and he's 23.. How are they coping with it?

Thanks for the welcome and i'll take a look at your recommendations but could someone explain DS 1 DC DD etc. I think is DS darling son? Or am i being a twerp. Someone once told me LOL was lick our lollies and i was gullible enough to believe them.

@ Jellycat My son was nervous but my daughter was bolshey and full of it as usual.
We'd already been told a few months ago when she was in hospital by my ex father inlaw that she had days to live and that i should get the kids to hospital asap. After consulting my ex brother inlaw it turned out that my ex wife didn't want the kids to see her in that state but wanted to see than in more normal circumstances, which is what has happened after the kids were consulted.

Just wanted to say I'm 30 now, but from 13-17 I was an absolute bugger for my dad. He was also a single parent to me and my younger brother.

But, hand on heart, now I've grown up I have so much love and respect for my dad it's amazing what he did for us. So though it's hard now, I'm sure one day your dd will appreciate everything you do.

And welcome to mumsnet!

hi singledad
does sound like you have been through the mill

click on 'acronyms' above, just below mumsnet talk. you get a list of all the jargon.

you can usually hear a pin drop in dadsnet some other sections require UN peace-keepers!

Well Cameron reckoned LOL was lots of love and he 'runs' the country (albeit badly)

I have a 14 yr old DS2, and i know sometimes his bolshyness is covering up emotions which come out in other ways, so there may be a bit more to it. Of course your DD may be fine with it all, but i thought i'd just say.

singledad - greetings. Yes Dadsnet is umm...quietish, but do keep checking in from time to time at least.
if this is your first time on MN, lurkalot at first if you haven't, grow a fairly thick skin, don't be put off by individual posters, use and contribute to MN as the UK's best search engine, and have a bit of fun. I know you haven't asked for advice and guidance, but you've got it anyway.

Welcome. Don't restrict yourself just to dadsnet. Try our the 'chat' areas. Also on a Friday there is usually a 'Drunk Thread' where we talk nonsense and generally have a giggle.

Right better leave this thread as I am not a dad and it feels a bit odd. Any how I hope you find MN friendly and helpful.

oh and avoid the breast-feeding, and SAHM threads if you can. Lives and limbs have been lost there. And go to AIBU only if you are willing to be maimed. hth.

Thanks guys. I pondered joining here for months. Felt like i'd be the proverbial cat amongst the pigeons. But it seems a nice place to be.
There are stories to be told that will put you more in the picture, i'll find a place to put it after i've settled in over the next few days. More a case of getting it off my chest than looking for answers i suppose.

Ventilate away. fwiw there are a few dads around. I am a nrp for example, and a few others are too so not exactly in your circs., but friendly ears and eyes anyway.