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DP has "gone off" sex and intimacy...

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Lala1980 · 15/05/2012 16:33

Background: I have been with my DP for 18 months and lived with him for about a year of that. He has four children that stay with us every other weekend. When we first got together and were living separately, he was very highly sexed - I was worrying I wouldn't be able to keep up with him. Sometimes 3x a night... he was all over me like a rash. We'd do it all over the house, christen the rooms, risky places, etc...
However, that has whittled down to maybe once/twice a week in bed or on the sofa... He hasn't gone off sex, so much as instigating it. If I start it or ask for it, it does tend to happen. But unless I ask for a kiss, cuddle, sex etc... I don't think he would...
Is this the honeymoon period being over or has he gone off me? He is so good to me in other, more practical ways like DIY, portioning up veg for the freezer, walking the dogs etc... but sometimes I just want to be whisked off my feet and made love to off the cuff!!!
I am very tactile and demonstrative of my affection... I've never met a bloke who's pushed my hand away from "down there" or turned down a BJ because he's tired or not in the mood...

OP posts:
FaceForRadio · 15/05/2012 16:41

If I just grabbed dps knob then I'd be sent packing with a flea in my ear.

Really, is that how you instigate intimacy? by grabbing his cock?

Lala1980 · 15/05/2012 17:03

I didn't say that was how I instigate sex... that was just an example. I guess I just feel very insecure that nothing intimate occurs between us if I don't start it. :-(

OP posts:
thechairmanmeow · 15/05/2012 17:04

thats a noticable reduction in sex drive by the sounds of it, has he started any kind of medication you can think of? some pills have that side effect.
good luck.

CupOfBrownJoy · 15/05/2012 17:05

I'm sorry, I don't see how the ability to portion up veg for the freezer at all makes up for lack of excitement in the bedroom... Hmm

Have you asked him? I have a higher libido than DP, generally, and to be honest if I feel I'm instigating sex a lot more than him, I get in a mood and have a go at him about it. Not ideal, I know, but at least it gets us communicating... Smile

thechairmanmeow · 15/05/2012 17:06

nothing wrong with grabbing a cock, not all sex has to be candles and romantic music

FaceForRadio · 15/05/2012 17:08

hmm so you'd be happy with your partner just grabbing your tits and expecting sex?

each to their own I suppose.

OP I suggest you speak to him about this.

CupOfBrownJoy · 15/05/2012 17:26

erm, at no point did the OP say she had "grabbed his cock".

Just sayin'

FaceForRadio · 15/05/2012 17:33

Cup, that was my take on her last statement

SigmundFraude · 15/05/2012 18:57

Maybe he's feeling a bit pressurised. Stop initiating things for a while, see what happens. If he asks what's up you can maybe initiate a discussion then. Maybe he's stressed about something.

Understandably frustrating for you though.

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