Changing role of Fathers.

[Huansagain]

Fatherhood seems to have changed a lot since my childhood and going back to my Grand-parents even more.

My Dad was never really involved with us, but in one generation fathers seem more involved than ever before.

It was unheard of to be a Sahd when I was a child, but there seems a lot around now.

Is this just my experience, in the part of society I live in or is it more widespread?

If anyone ever enters Dadsnet, this is the article that made me ponder this.

m.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2010/apr/07/rise-stay-at-home-fathers-study?cat=lifeandstyle&type=article

Yes, Huansagain, SAHDs were not invented in my world as a child, although the economic afreedom of being more middle class, a bit more moneyed and so having Although I am an nrp with dd living less than 15 mins away, I still probably have far more 'good time' focussed on her than I ever had with my dad despite living at home.

The actual time spent at home with your children as a SAHD is an 'output'. If the 'outcome' of well-adjusted, more gender-aware, balanced children is what we are hoping for re the children I'm not sure I've seen the evidence of it.

erm some of that post got edited magically!

"having a more MC and moneyed lifestyle may give options for SAHDs though I was never aware of them growing up", is what it should have said.

to be fair there have been many sahd (since 1980's) due to unemployment, redundancy so it could not be linked to class...

sorry just my tuppence worth

Well, yup, but I am pretty sure MC families survive recessions much better than MC families, and with the wholesale destruction of our manufacturing base the incidence of WC fathers being at home unemployed is much more likely.
But I think the survey was about 'choices' to be a SAHD and so be emotionally 'geared' toward child care rather than having it unwelcomingly thrust upon them.
I think.

I was wondering about this. I posted a while back in chat asking how much time peoples DHs spent one-on-one with their kids and it left me with the feeling that I as an NRP actually have far more one-on-one quality time doing stuff with dd than a lot of married men.

I can't really remember my dad spending much time with me and my brother until my mum went to study in her mid thirties. And even then it wasn't a great deal of time.

He loved his golf did dad.

I seem to be noticing more Dads spending time with their children.

My dad was a product of his time, unfortunately. So we didn't see him much.

Not making that mistake with my children.

I would give anything to be a SAHD , seriously, all I ever wanted to be , but got maneuvered out of it by my controlling ex sadly. Now with a new partner and two wonderful stepkids, am in the position of wanting another and to be the sahp ... discussions on this are ongoing.