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DB just been made redundant- what would you guys advise?

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LittenTree · 16/02/2012 13:46

My DB is single and 52.

He lives alone in a privately rented house not that far from us.

Yesterday he was told he was being made redundant from his van driving job, stocking vending machines. He was also a 'Depot manager' which is a glorified stock keeper at one of their depots. The job involved handling expensive stock and a lot of money. This wasn't wholly unexpected as due to increasing govt legislation, the days of his industry are numbered (think tobacco).

He is quite sanguine about it and reckons that he has enough £ to get by on for a year. His package was reasonable and he has the remains of the proceeds of the sale of a house he once owned (purchased with our parents help but then he allowed himself to get screwed over by a 'girlfriend' but that's another story!).

I believe he was earning £25k pa pre-deductions.

He stated on the phone last night 'Maybe this'll give me a boot up the arse to do something else'.

His original qualification (C&G) was as a pastry chef (think posh gateaux etc) but that job no longer exists except at the very top end. He's been van driving for years now.

DB is just a 'regular bloke'. More clever than his 2 low grade CSEs would lead you to believe (thanks to a rubbish SM). He is 'handy' (fixes stuff around our house, etc), is reliable and personable but has no qualifications or many proper tools. He did help as a plumbers mate for a bit which I believe went well.

What should he do? Obviously he needs another job. We are helping him get a 'professional looking' CV together (he has asked us to) but DH and I tend to find our work on dedicated websites whereas I think van driving jobs would come up in the local papers, wouldn't they?

SHOULD he consider doing one of those short, sharp courses at college leading to an electrical or plumbing qualification? Are they worth it? Would he be likely to get a job out of it? I was talking to a subcontractor of about 35 at work a few weeks ago who'd gone from being 'an analyst' at B&Q and is now a trainee electrician having done a short college course. Would a 'how to present yourself at interview' think maybe held at a job-centre help? DO they provide still those sort of 'get a job' courses?

What advice would you give?

Now, I'm fully aware he's His Own Man and A Grown Up but the thing is, in the present climate, he cannot afford to be unemployed for long and needs to look to his own future. I know him well enough to see that it would be a Bad Thing for him to drift on too long without a job. He'd gradually start drinking more, staying in more (no £), losing heart and- well, I'll go as far as to say, just might ultimately become a bit of my responsibility, if only through guilt! There is no other family beyond our ageing mum. He should also not be regarding a spare room at our mum's house as 'back up' as a) she'd prefer to not have him there, really (she has said as much though of course would never see him 'homeless'), and b) I should start by apologising for my grasping greed here- I don't really want him there as a 'sitting tenant' when the inevitable happens to our aged mother... I also have DCs whom I'd like to help through college!

Constructive advice and ideas welcome!

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whoknowsme · 16/02/2012 13:58

I think you are being very practical, I'm sure your DB would rather keep independant too rather than end up as someone's 60 year old lodger.

Some employers offer careers counselling for staff being made redundant. Is this a possibility ? Has he contacted his local job centre yet to see what training (if any) is available to the newly unemployed. Also might be worthwhile contacting the loval FE college to see what range of courses they offer.

He has a lot going for him in terms of being a responsible trustworthy individual adn will presumably get a good reference from his current employer.

HappyCamel · 16/02/2012 14:13

If he likes driving then there's good money to be made driving HGVs especially on overseas routes. Bus driving could be an option too.

LittenTree · 16/02/2012 14:14

OK, good idea to see if his current employer would stump up to help him towards another job! My dad, years ago aged 57, 'engineered' his own redundancy back in the days of golden handshakes, final salary schemes, gold plated pension pots etc etc. He then also managed to get his company (multi-national) to pay for him to -ahem- 'retrain' as a watch and clock repairer which'd been his hobby and passion for years, anyway!

Times have changed somewhat, haven't they?!

I personally am going to look into the local FE colleges!

Thanks, especially for not pouncing on me as being the interfering little sister!

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LittenTree · 16/02/2012 14:15

Bus driving- there's a possibility, actually.

Does anyone know if they will provide the training or whether they'd expect him to turn up ready to go?

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HappyCamel · 16/02/2012 18:03

The companies often give a loan for the PCV which is cancelled after six months working for them.

charlie67 · 29/02/2012 07:44

I to have just been finished from my job of 12years at acompany that was one big family and no one left ,I am a plumbing and heating engineer and I have sat in front of this laptop every morning logging onto free advetising site and putting my name out there such as my free index mumsnet facebook and beknown monster search there are driving jobs there
I am trying to start on my own thou and it is hard just starting to come in
look me up on free index it will give db an idea of what he needs
sjj plumbing and heating hugglescote and the best thing is dont let people see you worry keep smiling in front of them and your always doing better towards them otherwise they will always put down

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