please can I have some male advice on the best way to to about letting my dp know that I am ready to get married without actually saying "I want to get married"
background: been together for a long time and have one child, about 6 years ago we went through a real rough patch and it was touch and go whether we would stay together - this was before children - we decided to give it a go at which point my dp said something along the lines of "well, we'll have to think about marriage at some point" to which I curtly replied that I didn't think that now was the time to put that in the mix. Roll on 6 years and one gorgeous child later and marriage is very much the elephant in the room. I've never felt a great desire but over the past year I've been thinking about it a lot on and have finally come to the conclusion that I'd like to get married.
but! I don't want to ask dp and I'm not sure how to hint and also why hasn't he asked me??!! I think he would like to from a couple of things he's said in the last 6 months unless I'm misreading it, eg he told me that he'd told the bank that I was infact a "miss" and not a "mrs" and that they'd better change it on our correspondence because I wouldn't like it to which I said "who says I wouldn't like it?" he didn't say anything and yet only a few months prior at a wedding when someone drunkenly said to him "oooh you'll be next" he shrugged and said "I've tried" (er when??), last week my dd said to him "daddy have you ever married mummy?" cue silence to which I said in a jokey way "well have you ever married me" and he said "no but you two are my very special girls"
so what do you think? does he want to or not, how can I find out and if he does want to how can I get him to ask me or at least bring up the subject?