separation & having my 2 year old DD to stay

[Gster]

I've posted a similar thread elsewhere, but I'd really like to get a Dad's perspective too if possible.

I've recently split from my partner, we have a 2 year old daughter, I live an hour and a half away from them.

I've suggested I have DD to stay at mine every other weekend, see her every Wednesday afternoon and put her to bed, and see her one day on the w/e I don't have her.

This is the plan at least. We're hoping to ease DD into the scenario.

DD is very comfortable being with me, I've looked after her at the XP's place for weekends before when XP has been away working. All went fine though there weren't any nightime dramas to deal with.

Just wondering if anyone else has been in a simillar situation and how your toddler reacted to the change etc.

cheers

I haven't seen your other thread, nor am I a Dad. I think you should reconsider the part about seeing her for one of the days of the weekend that you don't have her.
A friend of mine had an arrangement whereby she had her children M_T and her ex took them F-S. She had the slog while he had the good relaxed times.
I hope someone else comes along soon.

I get your point, and I have considered it, but my XP probably works on average 6 hours a week. She has plenty of fun times with DD in the week whilst I slog away 12 hours a day at work.

I can see when school starts it'll be an issue. And I have said to my XP that it's up to her if she wants me to see DD on her weekends.

Hi Gster. No sure I can offer any advice but just posting so you know others have read. As a matter of interest, were you other threads on Dadsnet or on some of the other forum topics (relationships etc)? Not sure how much 'footfall' Dadsnet gets.

givemesomespace,

the other threads are on mumsnet / lone parents as I was looking for the female perspective !. Had some very helpful replies there.

And yes I've noticed the lack of activity in this corner t'internet .