I need to know if this is normal

[BeccaK27]

I am a mother and i was recently diagnosed with Post natel depression. Now that i have medicine i am a lot better. My husband has recently told me that he gets "black" clouds when he feels nothing for our baby who is almost 10 months old. It hurts me just to write this as my daughter means so much to me. She adores him chases him around in her walker says dadda all day long she lights up when he comes home from work. I dont understand how he can just brush her off and not care about her. After everything we have been through together ( our baby was premature) i dont understand how he suddenly feels this way for her.

Is this something that a lot of men experience or should i ask him to seak professional help, as i did?

I would advise him to seek medical help.

I think you have both probably been through a lot and both need help and support.

Sorry, no advice as I am not familiar with this although it does sound like a male version of post natal depression.

I agree with TheArmadillo, he needs to speak to the doctor as men dont talk much about their feelings and therefore usually dont have the support that we women have.

Slightly different but I felt similar feelings towards my DS straight after our wedding. We had to fight to be together (mixed marriage) and once we were I just went blank. Felt the cloud lift completely once I started to talk about it.
I think it is the shock after fighting so hard for something you just need to recover! Married 16 years now. It was just a moment and I am sure once your DS starts talking it will improve.

Looks like I did have some advice after all... hope it helps.

Big hugs to you both

in the book fatherhood that i got by dh pre birth, it says in there that normally fathers feel nothing more than 'mild curiosity' at first. which struck me as a bit weird, but would chime a bit with what you are describing. good to have a chat about it with a third party anyway to get some perspective as you are clearly not happy xxx