Am I being too sensitive?

[ShadyAF]

I'm a size 14 and I'm not happy with my weight. I've been trying my hardest to lose some but due to medication I'm on for an autoimmune disease it's actually really quite hard to do. I'm getting there though albeit very slowly.

Anyway... it was my birthday today and my sister in law has gifted me size 20 pj's. We've shared clothes before (jumper when cold, jeans if got muddy by one of the dogs or wet along the beach and we were hanging out for drinks at one of our houses once we get back.

They are fall off my arse big not just oversized. The thing is, I know she likes her pj's loose as my brother bought her size 18s a few years ago at Christmas and she jokingly pulled him up on not knowing her size, his response was that she always like them to be looser and more comfy.

I'm a bit hurt as she knows I'm finding the weight gain and difficulty losing it tough.

Am I being too sensitive or was there a wee bit of shade there?

If you get along usually (which it sounds like you do if you've shared clothes), I'd assume she thinks you might like loose pj's too (I do).

Maybe she has some similar pjs... I think this is a genuine mistake. Talk to her.

We get on so well and always have.

I think I'm maybe just being oversensitive and, they are super comfy so I've stitched in some ties so I can make them smaller.

I know from her comments to my brother that she wasn't thrilled with his size choice but it was in good humour also so it does seem a bit odd.

Think it's more I'm feeling down.

Well I hope you had a lovely day today and good luck with the weight loss - I need to get on that wagon myself

Can you ask for the receipt so you can charge them for a pair that fit, making a point of saying something about the size being way too big? I would personally do it with a jokey 'I guess I must look bigger than I actually am but these are 3 sizes too big and they are literally falling off me!' but you need to do it in a way that you feel comfortable with

I've just reread the thread and seen you've sewn them to fit better. I would still say something to her, so she knows that size is wrong, or you could end up with more ill fitting gifts. Also if you are close I think it may help to have a chat and say you were a bit hurt by the choice of size etc

I don't think it would really be worth mentioning.

As I've already stitched (and they are still too big 🙄) I'll leave it, if it happens again I'll need to ask for a receipt and will explain I altered the PJ'S.