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Elderly mum has been tricked into sending £9000 cash to scammers

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theonlyoneiknow74 · 17/05/2026 01:48

I hope this is the right place to post, I could really do with some advice.

My elderly mother has been tricked into withdrawing £9000 from her bank account and sending it to different addresses given to her by fraudsters.

She's 79, widowed and lives alone. As far as I can gather, she's been victim to an O2 scam which started a few weeks ago when a caller told her she needed a new SIM card. She gave them her bank details and her address so they could take payment for the SIM and send it to her. She realised that this didn't seem right and contacted O2 who told her that it was a scam and to contact her bank which she did. At this point, her debit cards were replaced and she thought that was the end of it. There was, as far as I know, nothing going on with her bank account at this point.

Fast forward to this week and she recieved a text, again purporting to be form O2, saying that they were going to be taking a payment of £40 odd to cover the cost of a watch or some such (this is all very unclear). My mum had then called the numbe ron the text (I think) and as far as she was aware, she was speaking to O2. They then told her that this was a scam and put her through to their fraud department. They then transferred her to the fraud department at her bank. None of this was real and was all part of the scam.

Next thing she received a call (allegedly from her bank's fraud department) saying that they needed her to help catch the scammers and this is where she's fallen for their abhorrent scam. I feel sick thinking about it.

They told her (on three separate occasions over a five day period) that they would secretly deposit £3000 into her account which she should then withdraw in cash and post to an address that they gave her. She was told not to tell anyone and then once the scammers were caught, the bank's fraud department would contact a family member to explain. My mum believed all of this and has gone along with it each time. She's withdrawn three lots of £3000 in cash, packaged it up according to the scammers' instructions, taken taxis to and from three different post offices, spent £15 each time on special delivery and sent this cash on its way. All along she's thinking that it's not her money as the 'bank' have deposited the sums into her acocunts for her to then withdraw. It's absolutely flabbergasting and I can't believe she fell for it but she did. All of this was done in secret and she believed that she was helping to catch fraudsters.

She came to her senses this evening and realsied that something wasn't right, called her bank and was told that it was a scam, and she's convinced that she's not out of pocket. She hasn't been able to check her bank account as she's changed her log ins and now can't get in online. The bank have blocked her accounts so we have to go into a branch after the weekend and try and sort it out. It's such a mess.

I don't think she fully grasps what's happened and seems to be focusing on irrelevant aspects of it. She also seems unclear about how much money she had to begin with which is worrying.

The bank have told us to report it to report fraud uk which I'm in the process of doing on her behalf but I'm wondering if there's anything else we can do to manage this? Apparently the scammers have said they'll call her again after the weekend (it seems that they call, tell her to withdraw the cash and where to send it each time). I've told her not to answer any calls whatsoever but I'm worried that she will.

Not sure what advice I'm looking for really, it's all just so upsetting and distressing.

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FanSpamTastic · 17/05/2026 01:52

I think you need to report this to the police. If she is sending cash to actual locations they might be able to track down the fraudsters.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 17/05/2026 01:54

FanSpamTastic · 17/05/2026 01:52

I think you need to report this to the police. If she is sending cash to actual locations they might be able to track down the fraudsters.

Yeah this

Oh gosh op, so sorry 😞💐

AreWeHeadingForAnotherLockdown · 17/05/2026 02:26

Change her number before the next call?

TheIsleOfTERF · 17/05/2026 02:34

Op, be careful with this thread. You’ll likely be spammed with “recovery scammers” who’ll promise you that they can get the money back for a small fee. This is also a scam so ignore them.

MyGammyEye · 17/05/2026 02:36

Bank first, then police and then they'll probably refer you to Action Fraud (?).

Sorry, I've just seen that you've been in touch with the bank. The police will refer you on to the Fraud people - sorry, it's been about 8 years now since I had something similar.

It's awful. Bless her, how is she in herself? Did they call on a mobile? If so can you set her up with a new one, all numbers stored etc but she won't have to worry about receiving another call. If landline, speak to the provider and ask for something to be put in place so that only known numbers can call in.

Unfortunately the Fraud people rarely get anywhere as once it's gone, it's disappeared elsewhere.

Ask the police for victim support if you feel your Mum needs to talk to someone. It's horrific.

I can only wish you both my best.

cannynotsay · 17/05/2026 02:40

That was a painful read sorry op, hope you get it sorted

TonyGallaSoInLoveNsoul · 17/05/2026 05:33

How these people can look at themselves in a mirror of a morning beats me.

Sorry this has happened to your mum.

ThejoyofNC · 17/05/2026 05:40

Goodness OP how awful.

Honestly I don't know whether she has any chance of recovering the money since it was given in cash, I assume that's the purpose of the scam being done this way. Go to the police ASAP.

I would advise you to set up online banking (with her permission) with notifications coming to you so that you can keep an eye on things. Maybe even close that account down and open a new one so all her details are new.

Cheesipuff · 17/05/2026 05:40

I don’t answer my house phone unless it comes up with the name of someone on the call list. They can still leave a message if they are genuine which they never do

FiveShelties · 17/05/2026 05:46

I am so sorry this has happened to your Mum @theonlyoneiknow74

These people are just awful, what a dreadful way to earn your living.

PinkJ · 17/05/2026 06:23

Does she have some cognitive impairment starting to be falling for these scams and not knowing how much she had in the first place? 😔

Summerhillsquare · 17/05/2026 06:26

TonyGallaSoInLoveNsoul · 17/05/2026 05:33

How these people can look at themselves in a mirror of a morning beats me.

Sorry this has happened to your mum.

As far as they are concerned the victims are both rich and stupid, and not worth considering further.

FlorencenotRatchet · 17/05/2026 06:27

My mum had a very similar story to yours.
we reported it to the police who then recommended we report to action fraud.
we also visited the bank with her.
Thankfully all of her money was returned which I think is the norm now.
it was a really stressful time so I sympathise. I was so angry that the bank did not have more rigorous processes in place for elderly people withdrawing large sums of money that was completely out of sync with their usual spending habits.

TonyGallaSoInLoveNsoul · 17/05/2026 06:29

Summerhillsquare · 17/05/2026 06:26

As far as they are concerned the victims are both rich and stupid, and not worth considering further.

I appreciate that point but its obviously morally bankrupt..
What a way to obtain money.

LittlePetitePsychopath · 17/05/2026 06:30

FlorencenotRatchet · 17/05/2026 06:27

My mum had a very similar story to yours.
we reported it to the police who then recommended we report to action fraud.
we also visited the bank with her.
Thankfully all of her money was returned which I think is the norm now.
it was a really stressful time so I sympathise. I was so angry that the bank did not have more rigorous processes in place for elderly people withdrawing large sums of money that was completely out of sync with their usual spending habits.

Had she withdrawn it in cash, or transferred it? There’s guardrails around the latter.

How has she been withdrawing £3000 in cash? Most bank accounts have a daily withdrawal limit of around £300. Has she had to explain to the bank why she needed £3k a time? If so, and they had chance to flag this, she might have more chance of the bank taking some responsibility…

Action Fraud are pretty toothless unfortunately. It’s very likely they’ll not really investigate.

FlorencenotRatchet · 17/05/2026 06:52

LittlePetitePsychopath · 17/05/2026 06:30

Had she withdrawn it in cash, or transferred it? There’s guardrails around the latter.

How has she been withdrawing £3000 in cash? Most bank accounts have a daily withdrawal limit of around £300. Has she had to explain to the bank why she needed £3k a time? If so, and they had chance to flag this, she might have more chance of the bank taking some responsibility…

Action Fraud are pretty toothless unfortunately. It’s very likely they’ll not really investigate.

All withdrawals were in cash at in person at the bank. Approx £2500 each time. She was told to say it was for home improvements if asked. Shocking that this didn’t flag with them.

redboxerclub · 17/05/2026 06:57

I’m so sorry OP your poor mum. The scammers are very sophisticated. I’m always worried about the the bank calling me. I think you can only tell your mum that if the bank calling her that she needs to hang up and call them back on the number she knows. I’m sure banks have departments that deal with vulnerable customers so you could look into that .

have you a lasting power of attorney? Can you move to her money being in a joint account?

PermanentTemporary · 17/05/2026 07:01

I have been scammed and my father was scammed for years, while we were both thinking fine, so it’s not a given that she’s deteriorating to me, but nonetheless… if you have concerns that she might not be managing so well, do talk to her, perhaps her GP and her bank. I agree perhaps about power of attorney or a joint account/third party access. There are a few forms of protection available.

Laurmolonlabe · 17/05/2026 07:13

my Mum was targetted by scammers, she luckily saw through it, but put me as joint on her bank account so I could keep an eye on it. These scams are usually done via mobile- explain to her you can't believe someone on the phone and if they tell you there is a problem, with your ,bank, your phone company your power company-whoever hang up and dial your bank, phone company or whoever and speak to them because that is the only way you can know it is the right people- incoming calls could be anyone.
This was true long before mobile phones, clients used to call me at my job in the City and want to discuss aspects of our deal if it was someone I had not dealt with before I would ring them back at the number I knew was correct for their company-otherwise you could be giving confidential details to a random stranger.

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 17/05/2026 07:40

I’m sorry for you and your mum. It’s exhausting even working out what actually happened, isn’t it?

What kind of phone does she have? Mine now asks callers with an unfamiliar number to say who they are and why they are calling, before it puts the call through. That means I still get calls from medical professionals, but not scammers.

TheBeaTgoeson1 · 17/05/2026 07:42

Jesus Christ, so sorry for your mum.

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Tipu87 · 17/05/2026 07:43

Hi, I work in fraud operations for a large bank, I really feel that you would have a case for asking the bank to refund that money. They may try to fob you off saying they cant because it was all cash withdrawals but persist with it.

Firstly the O2 fraud is well known in banking terms so when she contacted them about it they should have a put a vulnerability marker on her account, was this done? If not why did they fail to recognise she was in need of this and if it was placed, then why did they ignore it and allow the customer to be scammed?

Secondly if this gets taken to the financial ombudsman they are likely to lose and will all have the additional Costs to bare ( remember it's the banks that always pay, never the customer if a case is raised with financial ombudsman).

Thirdly register for a 3rd party mandate, it give you basic access to mums account, so you can have a look at balances etc. Not as powerful as a power of attorney but still very useful for keeping a eye on things.

Lasty contact mums home and mobile telephone providers to let them know she's being targeted by fraudsters they should be able to say for example block numbers from outside the UK calling her and register her with telephone preference service that will block all legitimate telesales calls, so that way if she does get any calls from sales people she knows its a fraudster.

Summerhillsquare · 17/05/2026 13:00

TonyGallaSoInLoveNsoul · 17/05/2026 06:29

I appreciate that point but its obviously morally bankrupt..
What a way to obtain money.

I wasn't defending it - it's the fastest growing crime I believe, due to ease and attitude of the criminals I guess.

user1492757084 · 17/05/2026 13:07

Your mother is losing her common sense and memory. Can the bank set up her accounts so that she has to have two people ( herself and you) to withdraw money? It might be time to help her budget and plan her finances.

Surgeonsattheedgeoflife · 17/05/2026 13:10

https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/m002mp9k?partner=uk.co.bbc&origin=share-mobile

I’d recommend this podcast which sets out what steps you need to take now. There’s also an episode of the same series that you might find helpful on the courier scam (which this is a variation of) - might be helpful.

I think you have a good chance of getting the money back from the bank. An elderly woman taking out 3 x £3k cash should have triggered their fraud alerts. Definitely worth pursuing with some vigour.

Your poor mum- it’s such a cruel thing tonnage been done to her.

Scam Secrets - How Do I Get My Money Back? - BBC Sounds

You've just been scammed. Is that money gone forever?

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