I just want to say that you have all helped me immensely over the years. When I’m in crisis I come here for perspective!
so. I was seeing someone last year. Had a previous DV relationship and so I put a Clare’s law in (without him knowing) and it came back that there was a DV claim- serious stuff. I knew things weren’t adding up with what I was being told. ended the relationship. Told him I wanted no contact or I would contact the police. The ending was drawn out for a couple of weeks and then no contact.
That was beginning of Jan 2025. Heard nothing. Blocked him off everything at the time.
a couple of weeks ago I get an email which was dated earlier and it confused me but it was a forwarded email as he had tried to email the blocked account and obviously not got through.
the start of the email aknowledges that he realises he’s blocked off everything and this is why he’s had to contact me (on my work website and email).
he said his mum had been in an accident and was medically unstable and would like my input due to my job. (This isn’t the area I work in and I’m newly qualified). I ignore the email.
Then I get a text message a few days later to my old number off an unknown number (now my work phone as I have changed numbers so very limited people have it, and his old number is blocked). Exactly the same as the email but at the end says a line about ‘let me know if you don’t want me to contact you again’. I didn’t reply.
Then a few days later I have a missed call off the number. I don’t answer calls to my work phone just incase.
i called the police and logged it. Had a chat with the officer today and he asked if I wanted to file for harassment. I really don’t know what to do.
i forgot to mention in the meantime he’s been convicted of DV. Which he lied about during our relationship- I had asked specific questions about police involvement.
having that’s chat with the police made me feel sick, and I don’t want to make a case for harassment because I’m worried about the backlash. And also worried about the stress on me even to go through that.
any advice and feedback welcome and thankyou if you got this far- you guys are amazing ❤️